Keeping It Simple; The Minimalist Way.
Marriage is a beautiful thing and even though I haven't crossed the bridge completely, I can testify to it. It's so unfortunate that things went sour in a lot of marriages and it's impossible to expect people with such experience to speak well about it.
Let's see it from this angle, the road people ply to and from work successfully every day is the same road where some people meet their end but does that mean people should stop plying the road?
What works for A might not work for B and that doesn't mean A isn't doing the right thing, it all amounts to how unpredictable life can be.
A wedding ceremony is one of the most celebrated events in the world. Normally, it should only happen once so people invest a lot in that day. If I am not mistaken, this ceremony is a universal thing and I doubt if there is a country, religion or tribe that doesn't celebrate the union of man and woman. Although our way of celebration can be different but we still have common interests and goals.
I have talked about it a few times and if asked a hundred times, my answer will remain the same. A few people who know me quite well can tell that I do not fancy parties whether as a host or guest. Just recently, I told a friend about my marriage plans and he wouldn't stop laughing.
He said, "George, I know you are considering money, you want to manage funds but God will surprise you and make this event elaborate."
I understand what he was driving at and judging by the hike in price of things, a wedding ceremony would require quite a lot of money. Honestly, I am not rich but that has nothing to do with how I would love to celebrate my wedding. If I become very rich right now, it would only speed up the process and not change my plans.
Aside from doing the necessary things to meet the cultural demands of my wife's family, every other thing will be as simple as possible. Tradition is tradition and I have to respect it but every other thing will go in a minimalist way. Luckily for me, my woman isn't a party freak and that makes things easier for me.
A lot of people have threatened me not to attend my wedding because I didn't attend theirs or any kind of ceremony they invited me to and it really doesn't bother me. If attending an event will inconvenience me, I won't attend and if mine would make anyone feel the same way, sending just their regards will be very satisfying.
Marriage is a lifetime journey while a wedding party will only last for a day or two and it wouldn't make any sense for me to invest more in that day than the journey. The responsibilities that come after marriage are no joke, especially for someone like me who is still seeking financial stability.
No Aso Ebi or whatever and my guests can come with what they can afford. One thing I can assure my guests is that there will be enough to wine and dine, they just need to come celebrate with me in my simple way and that's all. My major concern is life after the party, the ceremony will only become a memory after that day.
My brother was called for groomsmen duty by his friend and they were already calculating over 100k just because everything they were using would be new. I am practically not in for all that, I wouldn't want to inconvenience anyone or myself for just that day. The elaborate party doesn't guarantee happiness after the wedding, we have seen marriage crash a few days after the party so it's best I just concentrate on what really matters.
My preparation for life after the party is what really matters to me, I would rather invest in that more.
Guys gather here, let's talk.
Have you ever asked why ladies get more attention during wedding ceremony? I thought about it and discovered that men are just potatoes.
Even the bible says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the LORD."
How about she who finds a husband?
You hit bull's eye @george-dee. Some couples invest so much in wedding that after the celebration day, they start going back to their families to beg for assistance, which in my opinion is a let down. Some even borrow hundreds of thousands for the wedding 🙄
Your minimalist plan is ideal even though some may frown at it. The journey is what matters.
I wish intending couples would inquire about the price of diapers, drugs and health care products for babies, before they begin to lavish money on a day's event.
Thanks for sharing
Babe, that diapers eeeh
Lolz, I haven't priced it yet but you guys are making scared already.
Na so ooo. I have a couple around my area, their baby is just 2 months old and they cannot buy diaper again,it's rag they are using for her
Honestly, going broke after the celebration doesn't make any sense. The day will come and pass so it's best we focus on the real priority which is the life after the wedding party.
The guest will go and we will be left without problems.
True words bro true words, Judy do well to invite me when you are ready to tie the knot 😁
Thank God you are aspiring to get married. I like your ideas and the points raised are actually true.
Practically I hate unnecessary expenses just for wedding. I resolved not to be extravagant at the wedding so that I could build a beautiful marriage.
Thanks for sharing dear
I would rather build a beautiful family than impress the guests at my wedding. It's pointless satisfying them because we can't, some people will still bad-mouth your best.
Sincerely my friend.
If men are potatoes, then what is the women?
Sure I enjoyed reading your post and we share similar view...there is no need of investing so much on a journey of one day. No best and worst wedding.
I wish you well in your marriage plans
You are right ooo, there is no Guinness record to the best or worst wedding party.
She who finds a husband is obviously a WIFE. Period. Na there e end. Men are potatoes. 😂
I am a pretty simple guy like you, man. I'd like for my wedding to be simple, straightforward and not necessarily elaborate—especially for the fact that there aren't that many people that care about one and their marriage, and what matters more is the union after the wedding. Nonetheless, it matters what my woman would like as well, and then we'd come to an agreement of what we'd like, together.
Chaiii, men will just remain potatoes. Standing from afar, I can tell that you are someone who loves a soft life and avoids things that would drain you in any way.
Marriage involves two and one person can't be left out of the plans. Both sides have to reach an agreement to make it a success.
I like soft life abegg 😄
Ok I think I found my partner here lol 😂 to my own view a wedding is good but I always love it simple and elegant. There are some people that will even be in debit because of wedding like why will you do pass your self, you have said it all brother.
You are right bro, people run into debt just to finance their wedding. It really doesn't make sense to me.
Stingy husband materials everywhere 🤣🤣
Chai
My gender don suffer 🤣🤣
Just kidding
Come and beat me🏃🏃
Getting married is important for both men and women, she who finds a husband, finds respect 😁😁
Lolz, looks like we have an answer @olujay.
Marriage is important but not compulsory, some people didn't marry and I respect their opinion.
Wellll yahhh i mean if i were to choose between the two diffinantely i'll prefer not getting married, now i see the reason why some people never wants to get married
I agree 💯 with you, but me you have to send my invitation special. You dey fear make you no spend money. I will eat very well ohh! Hahaha 😄
Thanks for sharing.
Lolz, don't worry. I will definitely invite the whole Hive community when the time comes.
🤸 am already dancing.
Wedding is the celebration of the beginning of a marital journey. I don't support the idea of breaking the bank to sponsor the event at the expense of the long journey called marriage. I love your perspective bro.
I totally support this. Marriage is not just a wedding, it is more than that.
A simple and moderate wedding is fine and ideal, it is a good thing that you wife is also not a fan of fancy wedding, heheh.
Unnecessary expense should be avoid, the money can be used to start up something
I was enjoying your view and your simple wedding plans until you spoiled the show with the last paragraph
Why do you like violence 😂😂
I should tag merit? Princess busayo? Treasuree and the rest? Just dey play 🚶🚶
I actually enjoyed reading this blog @george-dee and it's cool to also know that your partner has this same mindset and accept this concept (It takes two to decide on this and agree).
It's unfortunate how some people do their wedding for their guests like to impress them and then fall back to little or nothing after that ONE DAY event. Some people even go as far as taking loan for wedding 🤦♀️ not having in mind that they would be starting out their union as debtors which is unhealthy for the mind.
A friend of mine who wedded last year opened up to me before her wedding that she and her partner were running out of money after getting alot of things for their wedding and she felt bad as people were eager to see the man she would get married to and how flamboyant her wedding would be but unfortunately for them she did her traditional and white weddings on the same day in her home town (Eastern part of Nigeria). Then I asked her, "whose wedding is it?", and she said, "my husband and I", then I told her not to listen to anyone or feel bad about anything but be strong to create a wedding (keeping in mind how much she and her hubby had left to spend and adviced her not to think of taking loan) she will enjoy and be satisfied with and not a wedding to please people because afterwards her guests will be gone and the marriage is left for her and her hubby to build. Anyway, she was relieved and grateful she spoke to me.Let me stop here
Thanks.