No'vember

A few days ago, I came across the quote above a few moments just after I had an encounter with someone who doesn't know how to take responsibility for their own actions but instead puts the blame on someone else close to them.

We meet or relate with this type of people sometimes; they can be our boss, a relative, and even sometimes our spouses or parents.

A younger me would have tried to make a point, tried to explain myself with every energy I got, and most probably felt hurt because I felt unheard. But guess what? I just retreated and reserved my energy, for I knew that telling this person how I felt wouldn't change anything or make him understand my views. And after a while, he realized that trying to get on my nerves wasn't working, so he retraced his steps and started acting accordingly.

The older I get

The older I get, the more I realize that not everyone or everything that happens to me deserves a response or a reaction. My attention is my power; it's like a scarce currency, and I mind how and when to give it out.

The truth is, no one can hurt us with their words unless we let them. We have the power to save our energy and find our peace on the inside from things that don't deserve our attention in the first place.

We don't always have power over the things that happen to us most times, but we have power over how to react, how to feel about those things. We have the power over what to make out of our situations.

Hurt people hurt others

Sometimes we get stuck with people who don't care about hurting us. The best thing in such situations would be to cut ties with them, but there are times these are people we can't just escape from, we get stuck with them for sometimes. In this case, giving them attention is the only way they can get to us. So stop giving them attention, start focusing on yourself, put your energy into things that add value to you, and once you master this, they are powerless over you. They can't hurt you anymore, no matter how they try.

This also applies to situations that happen to us. We have the power over how we choose to feel about those things; what to make out of it, nothing can hurt us unless we let them.

I live by the quote above not just this November but any day, any time, and every second of the day. I guard my energy, my attention dearly; if something is not serving me positively, it doesn't deserve my energy and attention.

Silence is golden

Silence is golden and powerful; sometimes not saying a word is all we need to win. The moment they don't get the reaction they expect from you, their power over you is meaningless.

There is nothing that drains our energy like people with negative energy; they would never see anything good in us. But unless we give them our attention, all their negativity is powerless. I'm always careful and guided about this. I hope you are as well.

I wish you a great month of November. Stay positive, and I am sending lots of positive energy your way. ❣️❣️❣️🌹Thank you for your attention 😊

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