El problema con la positividad tóxica | The problem with toxic positivity
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En este mundo de redes sociales es muy frecuente ver a la mayoría de las personas tratando de ser positivas: compartiendo memes positivos, compartiendo experiencias positivas, siendo agentes de cambio hacia la positividad colectiva.
Evidentemente todos queremos sentirnos bien y que nos pasen cosas buenas. Además, ¿cómo podría estar mal desear el bienestar continuado?
El problema ocurre cuando deseamos que estas experiencias positivas ocurran en nuestras vidas sin dar los pasos para cimentar de forma sólida las bases sobre las cuales podremos estar seguros mientras las vivimos. A menudo estos pasos son también sentidos como experiencias negativas.
Los tres temas principales por los que suelen preguntar las personas al asistir a una tirada de Tarot son salud, dinero y amor. Son buenos temas para ejemplificar lo que quiero comunicar aquí.
En la salud buscamos estar en un estado óptimo del cuerpo sin dolencias ni complicaciones que nos impidan llevar a cabo las acciones a las que estamos acostumbrados. Sin embargo cuando llega la hora de observar nuestras dolencias, sentirlas, indagar en su origen, conocernos a través de ellas, la mayoría de las personas prefieren pedir la pastillita que le "solucione" el problema con rapidez e ignorar todo lo que su enfermedad tiene para enseñarles. Este es un claro ejemplo de positividad tóxica ya que la persona se ha vuelto voluntariamente dependiente de una droga para aliviar su dolor, por lo que no ha ganado salud sino que todo lo contrario. No quiso solucionar el problema de raíz pues hubiese tenido que experimentar su dolor.
En el dinero podemos observar el deseo de aumentar la cantidad de dinero que administramos antes de estar plenamente conscientes y agradecidos del dinero que tenemos. Por tanto sostener el pensamiento de que nuestra cuenta bancaria crecerá es posible que estemos generando totalmente lo contrario, ya que cuando no crezcan nuestras cuentas con toda seguridad crecerá nuestra insatisfacción, bajando nuestra vibración y capacidad de manifestar una realidad material de abundancia y prosperidad. Desear siempre el crecimiento financiero es una receta para la frustración y el desequilibrio mental.
En el amor podemos encontrar la clásica frase de que todos quieren ser amados pero poca gente está dispuesta a amar. Amar de forma consistente en el tiempo debe ser uno de los artes más difíciles que existe esta vida humana. Hay muchísimas formas de entender el amor y así mismo infinitas formas de practicarlo. Pero nada está garantizado y por más que un día seamos comprensivos, empáticos, abiertos, solidarios, presentes, y agradecidos, al día siguiente puede ser que no le veamos el valor absolutamente nada. La positividad tóxica se encargará de juzgar a esa versión de ti que en un día específico no supo practicar el amor. Una forma sana de acercarse a tu yo no amable es aceptar que la negatividad y el disgusto son permitidos, que no siempre necesita ser positivo.
Hoy mientras cortaba trozos de madera para construir un cerco, reflexioné sobre la necesidad de hacer este trabajo que no es particularmente mi favorito para levantar los cimientos de un sueño que deseo concretar. Un lado muy positivo de mi mente a menudo me invita a soñar que si pienso todo el rato que ciertas cosas se van a lograr, aunque no me esfuerce por ellas, estas van a ocurrir por sí solas.
Pero en la práctica no ocurren. No importa cuántas horas me siente a desear que ese cerco se construya. No importa cuántas afirmaciones positivas diga el cerco simplemente no se va a levantar sin que yo me mueva.
El esfuerzo es el antidoto a la postividad tóxica porque es cuando voluntariamente accedes a una experiencia menos placentera, a veces incluso dolorosa, para abrir paso a las futuras experiencias positivas.
Lo que aquí expongo es mi visión particular sobre este tema y reconozco que puede estar limitada debido a mi sesgo humano.
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In this world of social media it is very common to see most people trying to be positive: sharing positive memes, sharing positive experiences, being agents of change towards collective positivity.
Obviously we all want to feel good and have good things happen to us. Besides, how could it be wrong to wish for continued well-being?
The problem occurs when we want these positive experiences to happen in our lives without taking the steps to solidly lay the foundation on which we can be secure while living them. Often these steps are also felt as negative experiences.
The three main themes that people often ask about when attending a Tarot spread are health, money and love. These are good topics to exemplify what I want to communicate here.
In health we seek to be in an optimal state of the body without ailments or complications that prevent us from carrying out the actions to which we are accustomed. However, when the time comes to observe our ailments, to feel them, to investigate their origin, to know ourselves through them, most people prefer to ask for the little pill that "solves" the problem quickly and ignore everything that their illness has to teach them. This is a clear example of toxic positivity since the person has voluntarily become dependent on a drug to alleviate his pain, so he has not gained health but quite the opposite. This being did not want to solve the root problem as it would have had to experience its pain.
In money we can observe the desire to increase the amount of money we manage before we are fully aware and grateful for the money we have. Therefore, sustaining the thought that our bank account will grow, it is possible that we are generating the opposite, because if our accounts do not grow, our dissatisfaction will, lowering our vibration and ability to manifest a material reality of abundance and prosperity. Always wishing for financial growth is a recipe for frustration and mental imbalance.
In love we can find the classic phrase that everyone wants to be loved but few people are willing to love. To love consistently over time must be one of the most difficult arts that exists in this human life. There are so many ways to understand love and so many ways to practice it. But nothing is guaranteed and even if one day we are understanding, empathetic, open, supportive, present, and grateful, the next day we may not see the value of anything at all. Toxic positivity will be in charge of judging that version of you that on a specific day did not know how to practice love. A healthy way to approach your unloving self is to accept that negativity and dislike is allowed, that it doesn't always need to be positive.
Today as I was cutting pieces of wood to build a fence, I reflected on the need to do this work that is not particularly my favorite to raise the foundation of a dream I wish to realize. A very positive side of my mind often invites me to dream that if I think all the time that certain things will be accomplished, even if I don't strive for them, they will happen on their own.
But in practice they don't happen. No matter how many hours I sit and wish for that fence to be built. No matter how many positive affirmations I say, the fence is simply not going to go up without me moving.
Effort is the antidote to toxic positivity because it is when you voluntarily agree to a less pleasant, sometimes even painful, experience to make way for future positive experiences.
What I state here is my particular view on this subject and I recognize that it may be limited due to my human bias.
Namaste 🙏
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Greetings my friend, thank you and blessings to you 🙏
Very good post, very clearly expressed thoughts that I personally cannot express in such a precise and clear way, although toxic positivity has occupied me for quite a few years in my life to the point where it has literally pushed me away from people who try to practice it at the expense of the finances, and even the happiness and peaceful life of the people who trust them. You know, all those fake gurus who write books and then give workshops about how your life will magically change when you think positively, without explaining the foundation on which it's all built, the real effort and often the practical impossibility of life being changed, regardless of the efforts.
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I like the hermetic saying: "All truths are half truths, all paradoxes may be reconciled".
No one can have claim over the complete truth
Amen brother! Dude! Forest dweller!!?! I’m always stoked to meet someone who’s WAY freakin cooler than me, and you sir, are one such case. Glad to meet you!
Haha! I've always thought that the coolest people are those who strive to make others feel cool, they are the ones actually bringing the coolness to the table
Anyway, thanks, and glad to meet you as well!
Sorry for the long delay my dude, this was such a cool comment it actually left me at a loss for words…I’m still there actually, but I wanted to at least reply and give my appreciation :)
Excellent post here man! I couldn’t agree more.
People tend to wish for the easy routes for all of these things without putting in the work for that to occur. A pill isn’t going to fix the poor diet we have, or the alcohol we drink. We’ve been fooled to think that there are easy solutions to these things when there are definitely not.
There is also absolutely the mindset of getting a bunch of money all of a sudden. That’s not the reality of the world and the people who do win a lottery of some kind often spend all of it because they have no concept of managing their finances. It’s quite foolish.
Love is another one and I will admit that I’ve had my challenges here as well. I wanted more effort to be put into me than I put into them and that’s not right. It’s definitely about balance and being able to give and receive.
Thanks for putting such good thoughts together!
Yeah, love is a bitch hahahah
Super hard to get that one right
Thanks, glad you found it of interest!