RE: I've Figured Out the Problem With Modern Gender Identity

But they don't see how this makes the identity a personal "choice".

Which highlights how people are often picking something they like to start mimicking. Before you can do that, you need to have an identity, so you already have one, yet you are saying it is something else. People being clueless about how their mind works (which is completely normal for a child or a teenager) allows them to be dragged into the narrative.