Tip the scale

I asked a streamer girl how would she grade herself in an attractiveness scale - she said all women are beautiful. I asked her if she thought the same of men - she said it "depends".

In today’s dating world, it's frustrating to see how validation works differently for men and women. Women, especially in the Gen Z generation, often coast by on the constant stream of validation they get from social media and dating apps. They're praised for being attractive, and that’s enough. There’s no real need for them to develop emotional intelligence or personal growth because they get everything they want without it. This makes them emotionally shallow, unable to connect on a deeper level because they never had to struggle or work for it.

Men, on the other hand, face constant rejection and lack of validation. The result? They have to grind - mentally, emotionally, physically. They can’t rely on just their looks. They have to develop depth to be noticed, because the reality is that no one is going to pay attention to them unless they prove they’re worth it. This struggle pushes them to grow, and that growth is what makes them more capable of handling real, meaningful relationships.

But women? They don’t have the same incentive. They don’t face the same struggle. In fact, they’re often praised even when their behaviors don’t deserve it, and the attention they get only reinforces their emotional shallowness. And that’s why they’ll end up in bad relationships, if they even manage to get into one at all. They’ll realize too late that all the attention they received was fleeting, and their emotional intelligence - lacking as it is - will be the thing that holds them back from building something real.

Men should seek brilliance in women. Seek women who are intellectually stimulating, emotionally mature, and who are working on developing themselves - not just in how they look, but in how they think, feel, and navigate the world. It’s easy to get distracted by looks, but those fade, and what you’re left with is emotional immaturity and a lack of depth if the foundation wasn’t built properly.

Brilliance in a woman goes beyond the surface. It’s about finding someone who challenges you, who makes you think, who inspires growth and depth. Someone who has the emotional intelligence and maturity to match your own. That’s how you build something real - something long-lasting. The world may reward shallow validation, but the ones who focus on brilliance will be the ones who create genuine, meaningful connections that last.

Men who are desperate or only trying to have sex should be seen as simps. Men should openly shame other men who simp. Women who don't get into long-term relationships would be seen as someone who can only maintain attention from simps. This should raise both genders' standards as they have to develop before they perceive themselves as high-value.

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