The Ego and Its Need for Control

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Their is this Ego inside us that most people carry around, their this inner voice that arises from this ego that wants to control everything , run the show all time , feels that it is right all the time or maybe better than others. A whole lot of stress comes by just carrying this ego around.

Comparison on how things should be breeds this ego. So if life does not go the way it wants, it gives rise to frustration.

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Take work, for example. Two people are doing a project, and the boss praises one of them. Instead of feeling inspired or just happy for their colleague, the other person’s ego jumps in: “Why them? What about me?” That one thought can grow into jealousy, resentment, and even ruin teamwork.

Or think about relationships. Maybe one partner always wants things done their way—where to eat, what to watch, how to spend the weekend. That’s not love talking; that’s the ego needing to stay in control. Over time, it drains the joy out of the connection.

Is not bad if we feel this ego , but then it will be better if we can see this ego the way it is and then prevent it from being the force behind our actions. If you can accept that you don't need to win every argument , be the star in every room, or take control of every little detail, things will actually be much easier and acceptable for us.

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You can practice this in small ways. If in your workplace that the spotlight happens to fall on your colleague who genuinely merited it, congratulate them very well, for every time you feel kay when someone else takes the credit, the grip this ego has on you will lessen a bit. This allows you more freedom inside of you.