MARRIAGE STANDARDS: MY PERSPECTIVE.

Marriage means different thing to different people. One of the things I don't take for granted is marriage. In this post, I would like to pour little about myself and the process that led to my marriage. The desire of every young man or lady is to have a successful marriage. As I used to say, marriage is not built in a day but it requires a process which is bounded by time.

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In the current time we are in a moment where there are many things people tends to scout for in a relationship based on our different generic make up. Some consider the physical out look more than any other thing else whereas other people's view is on a different matter. For the sake of the topic of this post, I'll be sharing some standard people set for marriage and my experience thus far as a married man. Marriage standards can simply be put as the cultural or social expectation that forms basis for marriage. Some of these standards depends on the kind of society, culture and other background. Let me quickly highlight some few conventional marriage standards;

*Cultural norms: In Africa setting, this is a common practice. This involves a situation where the kindred or people make choices for their children. The parents tend to impose their standards based on the beliefs of the community. While some because of their selfish reasons twist everything to what they want. That shouldn't be.

Some people's standards are based on colour complexity and height. Some said the husband must be taller than them, handsome and charming. He must have some financial muscles and similar genotype etc that might be right base on what they want but I Don't like such perspective anyways. Whatever you see physically can easily disappear. There was a lady that got married with a good facial look, fair to behold with good dimples suddenly had an accident which affected her. She lost all the facial things and the husband started complaining... There are standard if we aren't careful could cause havoc to marriages.

One of the things I set up for myself before getting married was in the area of spiritual capacity as a Christian. I needed someone that fears God and is teachable for any new thing. I didn't consider the physical things as my basic requirements even at the end of the day everything aligned as I wanted. My wife is beautiful, industrious, spiritual and fit into the purposes of God for my life. One thing that drives me in this life is purpose. No matter how beautiful you are and you don't know your purpose, hmmm I doubt whether I would be moved and captivated by such beauty.

Thanks for reading through my entry for this edition.

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