Do Unto Others....
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One intelligent young man once said to me, "You can not control how people treat you or talk to you", but you can only control how you react because they will always expect a reaction, a bad one at that from you, so they have what to judge you with"
It is one of the most difficult pieces of advice I have tried to live with and understood but over time, I realized that advice is a word on marble because as much as I would want to react positively to someone who hurt me, I find it difficult because as human my emotions and instinct plays or reacts immediately it senses danger or hurt
Recently in school, a colleague of mine who I am sure we have both never struck up a conversation in our stay in the school and department hurt me so badly that over time I began to detest her, I don't hate her but I don't like her either.
She stepped on my foot and pushed up while I was trying to write attendance in one of our crowd halls and course and when I called her attention to her action, she walked out on me.
I was worked up about the whole scenario but I decided to let it go since I wasn't the kind of person who loves attracting crowds. Perhaps some other person would have walked up to her for a face-to-face confrontation which could lead to an outburst.
A few weeks later, we are in one of our small lecture halls, and while in a rush to leave the hall, because I had someone waiting for her, I unknowingly pushed someone, so I decided to stop and apologize to whomever I may have pushed but while deciding to stop, I heard the voice of the same girl who had stepped on me a few days ago, complaining about me pushing her instead of telling her to excuse me. It good thing I never turned yet, because immediately I heard she was the one, I saw myself put on a big smile on my face as I majestically strolled out without turning again to apologize to her.
I heard her complain about it for a long time, and all I could think of while I headed home was, "Why can't people take the shit they give to others"?
We give a fellow human or throw at a fellow human like ourselves a thorn that ends up hurting them but we always end up ranting and letting hell lose when such is done to us and that is because we can not take what we give to other but then we end up forgetting that "We can't eat our cake and have it too”, that's indeed not possible, so why do we always get worked up when the trash we throw at others is thrown back at us or have we all of a sudden forgotten the "What you sow, is what we will reap" or the other one that says "Do unto others what we would want others to do to us"
I was smiling from ear to ear when I got to my friends and when I told them about my encounter, they sure were all laughing especially as I had walked out on get without even turning to glance at her again after I heard her voice and knew she was the one I had pushed.
There is no harm in being kind and nice to others because you don't know where you will meet them and ask for their help.