THERE SHOULD BE BOUNDARIES BETWEEN BUSINESS AND LOVE
Well, I believe in love and I know what love pulls up it can never be pulled down in as much as we both have the same mindset.
To the contest of the week, yes I have but the outcome was so bad that I can never try such again, I do not see anything wrong in mixing love with business but most people abuse this privilege and it is very bad which makes me determined never to try such again.
How It Started
I once dated a guy when I wanted to start my perfume business, he was so sweet then, and when I told him about my plans he was so happy and very supportive, all my thought was that this guy was the best for me not knowing I was only deceiving myself.
I started with oil perfumes because they sell very fast in my area, I lived among students then and this business moved like crazy, I do order more oil perfumes every week because I also have friends who patronized me and also helped in selling them.
When I started this business I noticed that this guy always demanded from me and he was not like that before, he always gave me excuses whenever I asked him what he needed the money for, he now sees me as competition because I do not demand from him, he wants someone that he will be able to control with the little change in his pocket, he started nagging over every issue and always told me that is it because I have my own business now.
I started sharing my income with him and yet he was not satisfied, he changed totally from who I thought he was, he started monitoring my account and wanted to know how much I had in my account just because of the little change I was making in my oil perfume business.
He did something that made me realize that I am dating the second son of the devil, he demanded money from me and I told him I did not have such an amount because I needed to transfer the money in my account to my customer that I was buying the oil perfume from, just because he knows my ATM password, he sneaked my ATM from my wallet and went to withdraw all the money in my account and broke the ATM and never pick my calls for two weeks, I cried my eyes out when I saw the debit alert on my phone, the alert was just coming one after the other and he never listened or ask what the money was for, this got me furious but he was nowhere to be found for two weeks.
I went to his apartment to check on him but the door was locked with a padlock and he wouldn't pick up my calls, I nearly gave up on the business because there was no Capital to start again, and the guy nearly sent me back to the village but I found help and stability through my friends, they are the ones who consoled me and raised me again.
It was a bad experience that I did not pray for anyone to go through, I know he will never know peace now because my tears had already made the judgment so I do not need to lay any curse on him.
Will I Say I Made the Business Based On Sentiment?
Yes, as my friends advised me that I should never mix work and pleasure when I started the business, I noticed that he did carry the oil perfume and used it without paying, one of my friends came and saw the scenarios, and she asked me if he will pay and I said no, because I think he will always support my business and I wish to expand the business and join different types of perfumes to it when the time comes.
Did it work out
It all ended in tears, it didn't work out well and from this experience, I learned a lot, I trusted the guy but he later betrayed my trust in him.
Lesson learned
From this experience, I believe there is not every man I can open up to, to the extent that you will know my ATM password, I believe my business is my business and not our business, I have set boundaries between relationship and business since my first experience.
This is my entry for this week's episode of hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w103e1 which is "BUSINESS AND LOVE"
I believe the guy was a lucky dude,if I were you and he tried such a thing with me. Damn he will wish he was never born because why on earth will a person purposely cause trouble for the business of a person you claim to love.
My dear, it was like hell for me then, the guy nearly turned me into a mad person but God came through for me.
Well, I think you were humane to let go but the good thing is that you learned your lessons. We should not toy with people resources especially if it has to do with their earning of funds.
That action was too harsh from the guy. I nearly took your story as a fiction because I couldn't fathom how someone would behave in such a manner to someone that you claim that you love.
Some things happen for us to learn from and I am glad that you learned from your mistake of trusting an untrustworthy person.
Wow, seriously I compliment how open you are even to the extent of telling your partner your atm password. It's a worst experience I won't even want to experience. Now here comes the question "what do men really want?"
Men want a lady who will be submissive and feed them, some of them are just devils in the form of humans, they can destroy everything you labored for but we still have some who are so good and understanding.
Men asking why they were tagged scum. They don't know that it's thanks to their fellow men. Cause why will he do that to someone you claim to love? It's so nice you were able to stand back on your feet.
#dreemerforlife
My dear, when I hear fear men it is not a joke at all, some men are devils in agbada, they can scatter your life within a twinkle of an eye
I popped in again from #dreemport because I am a #dreemerforlife.
Thank you dear
May fate not bring such a man near my doorsteps because I will hunt him down for life.
It's a pity that you had to go through this pain in the hands of a guy who claims to love you. Good that you got help at last.
You see karma, it will surely visit him in million folds.
#dreemerforlife
"When next you have a man in your life, pray to God to reveal his true intentions to you so you won’t be a victim of this again. And no matter the love and all, remember he's only your boyfriend, and you shouldn’t have given him your ATM password.
Thank God you’re back on your feet; sometimes experience can be the best teacher. Please don’t ever fall prey to such men again, and don’t forget to always pray to God when a man is in your life. Only God knows the mind of everyone.