The Day I Stopped Looking Up to Her

6 days ago

There was a time when I held my pastor’s wife in the highest regard. To me, she was the perfect example of kindness, humility, and wisdom. I admired the way she carried herself, always speaking gently, always ready to help, and always seeming to do the right thing. If anyone had asked me who inspired me the most, I would have mentioned her without hesitation.

I don’t know if I was blind to her flaws or if she changed over time, but the day came when I saw her in a completely different form. It wasn’t just one moment that shattered my admiration, it was a series of small incidents that slowly chipped away at the image I had built of her.

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The first time I noticed something odd was during a situation where she had the chance to show kindness but chose not to. It wasn’t anything extreme, but it surprised me. I overlooked it, telling myself that maybe she was having a bad day. After all, everyone is human and no one is perfect.

Then it happened again and again, I started noticing things I hadn’t paid attention to before, how she spoke to certain people differently in church, how she would act warm and welcoming in public but very arrogant in private, how she would preach about love but ignore to show it when it mattered most.

I told myself it wasn’t a big deal. No one is perfect. But deep down, I felt something was not right about her behavior and as a leader that most women in the church look up to, the moment that truly changed my perspective about her came when I saw her act in a way that went against everything she taught. I won’t go into details, but it was something that made me feel deeply disappointed. She had always spoken about integrity and fairness, yet in that moment, she didn't show any of it.

I felt hurt and betrayed. This was someone I had looked up to, someone I had believed in. I kept asking myself if I had been stupid all along. Had I been so blinded by admiration that I ignored the truth? Or had she changed over time? Either way, the respect I had for her was gone.

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This experience taught me an important lesson, admiration should never turn into blind devotion. It’s okay to respect people for their good qualities, but we should never assume that they are flawless. I
Let us understand that people have weaknesses, and I also believe in seeing people for who they truly are, not just who we want them to be.

No one is perfect, if we are looking for perfection then we are going to hate most people because all fingers aren't equal and no one is an angel we are meant to make mistakes but not at the expense of other's happiness, I was disappointed but I later realized that she has her flaws to and not an angel who fell from heaven.

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