Not Everyone Deserves a Seat in My Life

Friendship is one of the most beautiful things in life, we all need people in our lives no matter how strong or independent we may think we are but as i have grown older, i have come to realize that not everyone deserves a seat in my life, i believe friendship should be built on character, values and standards, not just on vibes or how long we’ve known each other.

I used to be the kind of person who accepted anyone who wanted to be my friend, i thought being nice meant saying yes to everyone, Over time, i learned that it doesn’t work that way, some friendships can drain your energy and peace, some people only come close when they need something from you, and once they get it, they disappear, that was when i decided to start choosing my friends carefully.

Character is the first thing I look for, I want friends who are honest, respectful, and kind, I don’t like people who gossip about others or pretend to care, I believe true friendship should be built on trust, If I can’t trust you then I can’t be close to you, I have seen how lies and jealousy can destroy good relationships so I try to stay away from people who carry that kind of energy.

Another thing I consider is standards, I don’t mean being proud or looking down on anyone, I just want people whose mindset aligns with mine, For example, I like friends who have goals, who are hardworking, and who push me to become better, I don’t want to be surrounded by people who only talk about others or complain about life without trying to improve themselves, good friends should lift you up, not pull you down.

One of my best friends today came into my life at a time I wasn’t even looking for friendship, what attracted me to her was her attitude, she was humble, disciplined, and always spoke the truth even when it was hard, at first, I thought she was too serious but as time went on, I saw how genuine she was, she never pretends, and she keeps her words, that made me respect her even more.

Having the right friends has taught me that peace is more important than popularity, I would rather have two good friends who understand me than ten people who pretend to care, friendship is not about how often we talk or how many pictures we post together, It’s about loyalty, support, and understanding.

I have also lost a few friends and at first it hurt but later I realized that not everyone is meant to stay forever, some people are lessons, while others are blessings, when you begin to grow, you will notice that not all your friends can walk the same path with you, it’s okay to outgrow people who no longer share your values.

At this point in my life, I choose peace over drama, honesty over fake smiles, and loyalty over convenience, i choose friends based on character and standards because I believe that’s what keeps a friendship strong, i have learned that good friends don’t just appear by luck they are chosen carefully and appreciated daily.

Friendship should make you happy, not stressed and if you ever find people who bring out the best in you, hold them close those are the ones worth keeping.

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This is my response to this week's episode of #hiveghana community prompt

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