BREAKING BARRIERS IN MAKING NEW FRIENDS

I am the kind of person who observes others before interacting with them. Although I enjoy making friends, but I am not very good at it, perhaps because I am an indoor person who never interacts with others.

Growing up, my father never permitted us to have friends. He is an extremely strict person with a very serious face, not that he is wicked but he is a disciplinarian, he is someone who doesn't like friends and this affects me.

Whenever we hear my father's car driving into the compound after work, we do find our way, because all he wants is to see us reading all the time, so anytime we hear his voice the next thing is to run and enter our room and pretend as if we are sleeping.

Making friends is so difficult for me, I never know how to communicate with friends, I remember when I had a friend in my area, she would be the one to come and check on me all the time but I never had a chance to visit her in her house for once, this caused quarrel between us and she decided not to come to our house anymore and I did not bother to check on her, that was how we ended our friendship.

I tried to make friends when I entered the university, I clicked with a lady when we came to write exams and since then we have been friends, she is someone who will always call me to check on me but I never reciprocated not until she voiced out and she started to distance herself from me, and that was when I knew that I had to change the impression my father created for me.

I started going to her hostel after my lectures to check on her and ask how the day was, I began to find my way back into her life because she was so nice to me and very caring indeed, she is so lovely and has always been positive around me, I love her vibes and she motivates me a lot.

We became closer than before and I introduced her to my mother and vice versa, she is someone who knows everything about me, and can never trade her for anything, I learned more from her, I learned how to make friends and how to keep them.

100 LEVEL DAYS

My ego wants to take the good part of me but she made me realize that I should learn how to value friendship over ego, I do not like to say sorry when I am wrong, I love to explain my part and trash it out but she educates me on how to say sorry to make peace with everyone.

If I lose that kind of friend I am sure I can't see someone like her, I buried my ego and kept her as my friend, though I have other friends that I do talk to but not as close as this particular person.

I do not like keeping lots of friends because it can be a problem later, ladies talk too much and they always talk out of point and can never keep secret.

This is my entry for this week's episode of the hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w101e1 which is tagged "MAKING NEW FRIENDS"

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