ALWAYS CUT YOUR COAT ACCORDING TO YOUR SIZE
In life, I believe contentment should be our watchword and I love this saying always cut your coat according to your size, when you know your boundaries and never overstep them then life will be like a bed of roses not push more than you can absorb.
One thing I always run from is overpassing my boundaries, that is putting myself in a tight corner just to satisfy people, I love to be minimal and always focus on my well-being, in February a friend of mine sent an invitation to me for her wedding and she wanted me to be part of the bridal train, I asked her how much is the uniform and she replied that the uniform is #50,000 plus we are going to buy the bridal shower robes and all when I calculated the cost then I noticed it was over #150,000.
How will I spend #150,000 in just two days because of party jollof rice, let me break down the cost, I am going to sew the uniform I will spend nothing less than 20,000 here in my city, I will lodge in a hotel because the wedding is in another state, I am going to pay for two nights, also I will spray money at the party and transport myself to the state.
I know she is a good friend but all these expenses for just a day, I do not have that amount of money to spend for that period so I reached out to my other friend to find out if she would be attending when I called her and explained to her she said she will be going for the party but she will have to borrow loan from all this online app to attend the party, I was shocked but I hope it worth it.
The next month I called my friend and told her I had work to attend to during that period and she understood me perfectly, I sent her some cash and she appreciated it, I'm not saying it is a bad thing to attend a friend's wedding but the expenses is way much for me and I can never try to satisfy others then displease myself.
Let's assume I offered to go to the wedding I might not have forgiven myself because I would have inconvenienced myself and impressed my friend but sending the money to her and also making myself happy is my topmost priority.
To be in debt is one thing I fear most in my life, a good name is better than gold and silver, my lifestyle is always simple and minimal like I said I do not overdo or pass my boundaries, and I do things that always makes me happy and I do not care about what others will say.
My lifestyle has always been the best for me, I know how to adapt when life turns the other way without anyone noticing anything about me, while I know how to maintain a low profile when I have in abundance, so it will be very hard for someone to predict my lifestyle.
I learned how to balance my lifestyle through the experience I had while growing up, I learned that it can be rosy and at the same time things can get sour, always accept any fate life throws at you, even if you have all the wealth of this life, things can change at any time, so my believe is that I always prepare myself ahead of the trial times.
Always learn how to set standards for yourself and discipline yourself about things you know are worth it, the way I talked to my friend and made her realize why I will be missing her wedding is also part of it, I didn't say the expenses are too much, I accepted everything with a joyful heart, I didn't bring out my excuses when she called me on phone, I took my time to strategized and know how to present it to her.
This is my entry for this week's episode of hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w112e3 which the topic is "WE NEED BALANCE"
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Biting more than we can chew would make us much more trouble. We can actually find balance in life if we do out-do ourselves.
The proverb in your title is well understood. People should dream but follow the step in actualizing the dream and not expect their dreams to be fulfilled in one day.
Nice lessons you got here
Contentment is key to creating a balanced life cause you can't be spending money to show off and please others who don't care about you or your well-being. Glad you told your friend you had work to attend to, cause spending that amount of money in this condition of the economy isn't advisable.
For one to be happy in this multidimensional world of ours, one needs to be contented and value his mental stability by not biting more than he can chew.
the commitment to maintaining boundaries and prioritizing your well-being amidst all these social pressures is truly commendable. It's important to strike a balance between celebrating with friends and staying true to your personal limits. Really appreciate it.