First love; It's called self love not selfishness

In whatever you do in life, don’t forget to put yourself first.
Believe me, it’s not a selfish move — it’s simply first love.

For a long time, I used to believe that putting others before myself was the highest form of kindness. I thought that love meant constant sacrifice — giving, pouring, helping, and showing up for everyone else, even when I was running on empty. But over time, I realized something important: you can’t pour from a cup that’s already dry.

It took me years to understand that self-love isn’t arrogance or selfishness. It’s survival. It’s wholeness. It’s honoring the truth that you deserve the same care, effort, and gentleness that you so freely give to everyone else.

The reality is — everyone leaves at some point. Friends, loved ones, even family. Not always intentionally, and not always permanently, but life has a way of pulling people in different directions. Circumstances change, priorities shift, hearts move on.

And that’s okay.

Because the only person who will be with you through every version of your life — the good, the bad, the confusing, and the reborn — is you.

You are the only one who can’t walk away from your reflection.
The only one who still feels the sting of your mistakes long after everyone else has forgotten.
The only one who carries your heartbeat, your memories, your dreams, and your fears — all within the same skin.

Even when the world feels heavy, when no one seems to understand, or when it feels like you’re burning from the inside out, you’re still there.
You’re still breathing.
Still holding on.

And that’s something powerful.

The truth is, everyone else can only try their best. They can comfort you, support you, and love you deeply — but they can’t live inside you. They can’t fight your battles, silence your thoughts, or heal your wounds from within. That work belongs to you and you alone.

Once you understand this, everything changes.

You begin to value your peace more than unnecessary arguments.
You start saying “no” without guilt, because you finally understand that boundaries aren’t walls — they’re self-respect.
You begin to choose yourself in rooms where you once shrank to make others comfortable.
You stop apologizing for needing rest, for protecting your energy, or for walking away from what hurts.

Loving yourself first doesn’t mean you stop loving others. It means you love them better.
Because when you’re full, you love from abundance, not emptiness. When you’re at peace with yourself, you stop seeking validation from others. You stop expecting them to fill gaps that only self-love can reach.

And that’s the beauty of it — when you finally become your own safe place, you no longer fear who stays or who leaves. You learn to appreciate everyone’s presence, but you stop depending on it to feel whole.

You begin to appreciate you.

So take care of yourself.
Speak kindly to yourself.
Forgive yourself for what you didn’t know then.
Celebrate yourself for how far you’ve come — even if you’re not yet where you want to be.

You deserve your own patience, your own compassion, and your own love.

At the end of the day, when everyone else has gone home, when the lights go out and the world grows quiet, it’s just you — your heart, your mind, your thoughts. That’s your forever companion.

So treat that person with gentleness.
Listen when they’re tired.
Be proud of them when they try again after failing.
And when life gets hard — because it will — remind them:

“You’re doing your best, and that’s enough.”

Because it truly is.

Loving yourself first isn’t selfish.
It’s sacred.
It’s strength.
It’s the foundation that keeps every other form of love alive.

And once you learn to do that — once you make peace with the person in the mirror — you’ll realize that “putting yourself first” was never pride.

It was homecoming.

Thanks for reading ❤️
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