Handling the Puzzle of Overthinking: Exploring the Domination of “what ifs”.

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Our daily life is a complex one, it is mostly impregnated with series of challenges that are unforeseen, unexpected, and energy-sapping. More often than not, we are frequently perplexed, overwhelmed, and anxious with the uncertainties of the future. For people like us, these uncertainties find expression as an endless sequence of overthinking.

What overthinking did to me
I could vividly recall the first time I applied for a post-graduate programme of which I was rejected. The gravity of the pressure I felt as a result of this rejection was palpable. My mind started amplifying every minor hurdle I encountered in the admission process, and some dictions used in the rejection letter. Indeed, I was entombed in a self-perpetuated loop of playing back every discussion I had, every choice I have made, and I was somewhat convinced that i was responsible for the rejection. At this point, my thoughts were preoccupied with “what if”. I started asking myself “What if I had selected another research area?” “What if I did better in the entrance examination?” My mind was so deeply plagued with these intrusive thoughts that I could no longer focus on the present and enjoy the moment.

Then, I understood that overthinking is indeed a puzzle I have created for my mind to play. No wonder I was consistently searching for answers without having any clarity. I did not know that I was only complicating the puzzles of my apprehensions. As this mental chatter continued, it sapped my energy and left me drained, empty, less productive, and exhausted.

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How I brought the puzzle to an end
To get my life working again, I needed to end this puzzle I had created. I started adopting some mindful practices like trying to live in the moment, frequently taking time to meditate and taking some deep breaths at regular intervals, I focused more and more on the things I have control over, and my effort paid off. Also, I had to accept my failings and imperfections. I became aware that it is okay to make mistakes and be faced with uncertainties in life. Though challenging, I knew it was an opportunity to learn, develop my mental status, adapt to difficult times, and be resilient.

More so, I realized the need to plan meticulously and not be relaxed, if I have to succeed in future endeavors. I knew I was an overthinker. So, I work hard to limit the way I react to issues and to quell the paralyzing effects of overthinking on me. I frequently practiced self-love, self-care, and the cultivation of inner peace while pursuing a set goal. I realized that I must always strive to enjoy the process leading to the achievement of my goals, instead of fixing my mind on the goal itself. Currently, I am on a journey of self-discovery. Even though I sometimes relapse to my old way of overthinking. Since I can easily recognize the pattern of overthinking often crept in to entomb my thoughts, I would simply adopt some of the approaches I have already listed to counteract it.

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I believe some @hive can relate to this struggle. I would like you to share your experience in the comment section below. Thank you.

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