Shocked, betrayed, confused: Finding my biological parents.

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Good afternoon guys. Welcome to my blog. @hivenaija has asked us all to share our thoughts on this weeks prompts.

The second prompt was the first thing that caught my attention and I will like to share my thoughts on this. One coming to the knowledge or finding out that the people you’ve always known or thought to be your parents are not your biological parents. This kind of revelation is one that could that could trigger emotions and lead to one taking decisions that he or she might end up regretting or just moving on for the sake of the future.

For me I'll be so heartbroken, especially when it's a home and was loved and accepted. For me I'll take time to process my emotions. Take time to reflect back because i might not even understand how I'll feel, whether shocked, angry, confused or even betrayed. Ill just try to approach the matter with a very clear mind so I will be able to make good decisions moving forward. Then I'll try to talk to someone, someone i can trust and can relate to thr matter and also understand my approach. Just to seek counsel on what to do and even get emotional support because it will really be a tough time for me.

If I don't have one ill just go professional, a professional an help guide you through the whole process or what you are going through at the moment

Some people might want to avoid this but I will really love to do this. I'll have an open and very honest discussion with my parent to hear from them. It could be they were planning to tell you or something just went wrong at a point. Just listen to them and find out what the problem could be, when there's an understanding alot will be prevented.

This particular conversation is something you'll have to prepare for, speaking anytime can cause youbto speak based on your emotions and regret the words you say later. I'll handle the whole conversation so calmly. No need for putting blames on anyone, just question for clarification that's all.

The next step for me is to get to know my real parents or maybe my true origin. Medical history, down to names, I'll really love to know. Even from people outside they might be an information that's relevant.

Even with all the pressure I really dont think I'll throw away whatever i had with the people that raised me. The experiences, values and relationships are all because of them. I'll understand with them, it might be hard but I'll try and just move forward. Even if I try to reach out to my other family , I'll do it with understanding because they might have had the reasons for their actions.

Nothing else to do, not dwelling in the past but focusing on the future. The present situation can never be allowed to define my future. My goals before me to pursue and my life to live too, can't just throw all that away.

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