Choose Your Fights Wisely.
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A couple of days ago, I received a friend request on one of my social media from someone who I had history with back in high school which afterwards we became enemies. I was surprised when I saw his friend request, actually I was mortified. I couldn't believe my eyes because apart from the friend request, he sent a message to my dm and asked me to forgive him for what he put me through back then.
To cut the long story short, I accepted his friend request and we made up. We are not enemies anymore and we decided to build a new friendship from scratch. So far, I have discovered that he had grown up and became accountable for his choices in life because he is actually doing well in life presently.
When we made up, he apologized for how he always bullied me in school and encouraged his friends to also do the same to me.
Back then, he was the cool boy and everyone loved to flock around him. So he always gets away with bullying and other bad things. One day, I got fed up with his bullying and we got into a bad fight. I let my anger control me that day, and I dislocated one of his arms. I was punished for the act even though he was at fault. Afterwards, we became enemies till we graduated, went to the same university and thank God for faculties and department, it made it easier for me.
I also apologized for the injury I inflicted on him and he said jokingly that he will never piss me off again.
I talk about this incident because, for many years he bullied me and every single time I wouldn't react instead I would turn the other cheek for him. Most people who knew what he was doing to me then always called me a fool, or a coward for not fighting back. Even my parents said I was weak for not standing up to him. I wasn't a coward, I wasn't weak, I walked away from trouble which brings me to introduce you to this song "Coward Of The County” by Kenny Rogers.
This song is not just a song but is a story told in the form of a song. It is country / western music. It always reminds me of this incident. Also, this song makes one reflect and self evaluate.
’Coward Of The Country’ is a song that tells the story of a boy named Tommy, whose father ended up dead in a prison when he was just ten years old. Tommy's father's last request to him was to ask his son to stay out of trouble if can and turn the other cheek instead of fighting to be a man.
Tommy heeds to his father's advice. He was called the Coward of the County for that. Unfortunately, one day, his wife was assaulted by three men. When he discovered what happened, he forgot about his father's advice and fought as he got his revenge swiftly.
So you see, Tommy was never weak, nor was he a coward as people mocked him. Tommy picked his battles and fights wisely. He stands up for the truth and injustice which is worth it. You can't always keep pushing a bull to the wall, you will be decked at one point in time.
We all have limits, while some don't. You toy with them and you get in trouble. But the question is, are you quick to anger? Are you erratic? Do you choose your battles and fights wisely? Some fights or battles are not worth your attention. You can avoid a lot of chaos if you choose your battles and control your anger wisely. For doing this, you're not weak, nor will you be a coward.
I hope this post and song resonates with you deeply as you read.
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I loved to listen to this Kenny Rogers' song as a teenager whenever country music program starts on the radio. The story behind the song is always amusing for me and I felt sorry for poor Tommy.
That's a smart move and I'm glad you applied this lesson in dealing with your friend. Fortunately, he realised his error and had a change of heart! Thanks for sharing. !LUV 😊
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The story is funny but the ending was a satisfying one for me. I was happy Tommy had the last laugh. When we humans are overwhelmed with emotions it is usually difficult for us pick the right paths and fights. I appreciate your comment and support. Thank you 🥰!PIZZA
Your post resonates with me deeply.
Picking our battles wisely helps us and saves us from a lot of troubles.
A lot of people think that it's best to retaliate with violence at any given opportunity which is not so advisable as it only makes things worse.
Thank you for sharing. 😇
Exactly! It goes a long way. Violence against violence result in an exploding chaos that can't be easily contained. It's been a while. I am happy to see you here. Thank you for visiting.!PIZZA
You're absolutely correct.
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You have spoken well. The lyrics of the song does resonate with me. In this world, many people are seen as coward when all they just want his a peaceful life.
Yes, everyone has their limit and pushed. They'll fight back.
I am happy this song resonates with you. Peace is always underrated while chaos is always very inviting. We should always know when to stand up and fight. I appreciate your comment and time here. Thank you.!PIZZA
Yeah. I do agree with you on this. Thanks to you too for sharing.
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Something about me is that I tend to give you several warnings so that when it happened, I wouldn't be at fault. I try as much as possible to stay out of trouble and people will think I am a coward but when I am being pushed to the wall, I vent my anger and at that point, people will believe me when I speak. It is better to choose your fight wisely instead of fighting for no cause unnecessarily — that speaks of a real gentleman or woman.
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Exactly, it saves us a lot of troubles and problems. I think you are a very patient person and I love that. Not everyone has that endurance. Thank you for visiting. I appreciate your comment.
Thank you, too 😎
reading through and then coming to listen to this song made the who experience a fascinating. a very apt song for the theme highlighted.
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I am happy this post resonates with you. Thank you for your comment.
Hello @esther-emmanuel. When I read the title to your post, I knew it would be a meaningful story about choices. After reading the thoughtful retelling of your bullying abuse and advice from others, I feel you made the correct choice of action. By ignoring the boy, you reduced him to nothing. You didn't give him a voice or control over your life.
A thoughtful read. Thanks for sharing. Take care and have a good rest of your week.
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Yes! You are right. Making the decision to ignore the boy who was bullying me wasn't easy, but in the end, it yielded a good result for me and my well being. I appreciate your kinds words and you taking the time to read my post. Thank you for your support. Have a beautiful day ahead. 🤗!PIZZA
You're welcome. I certainly enjoyed your story and your mature way of handling the situation at an early age.
Take care.