YOU CAN NEVER GIVE WHAT YOU LACK...

If there be a man that leaves his immediate family hungry while he feeds the general public, then that man must be a fool. I remember my mom telling stories of how my grand father preferred taking care of there cousins over them being his immediate children, he even had to pay WAEC (West African Examination Council) examination fee for one of her cousin while my mother almost missed the exam. Such an attitude will definitely leave marks of hatred in the mind of a child. One should first love and take care of him or herself, his immediate family, his neighbors and then the general public. If you leave any of the level unattended to before elevating to the next, then you must know it that you are not doing things the right way.

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Charity indeed begins at home. I have always believed in love and what love can do, but one cannot give what he or she does not have. You can only give love when you have one within you, and if you really have love in you it will certainly be visible to every one around you. I speak of love this much because a true charity must be defined by love, it is the presence of love that makes an act charitable. To define a true act of charity then, one must scrutinized such an act to see if love really exist in it, only then can it be charitable.

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If one's charitable acts reaches the general public before his home or immediate family, then such acts must be void of love and they are by implication not really charitable. In most cases, such charities are void of true kindness, they are mostly done with hidden motives and that certainly cannot be considered as real charity. Our homes are our base, where we can trace our roots back to, they are what gives our identity. If man a then leaves his origin in shambles to better the lives of those he has bearly met, there is certainly something wrong and such a man is certainly not doing things right. He or she probably lacks love.

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One's home is his/her responsibility. My grandfather in the case of my mother and her siblings left his responsibility to attend to need of the extended family and that is certainly not the right to do. It all begins from home and how well you are able to handle home will determine how well you can handle the general public. How well you are able to provide for your family will validate your charity to the general public. You can only be truly charitable when you have done things right, with that we can determine if an act is truly charitable.

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Do not get me wrong though. Putting smiles on people's faces even though you have barely met them is beautiful, it in fact bring about inner joy to the one who does such, but such joy can only be accorded to those who have done things right; those who made sure there responsibilities have been attended to. Giving a hundred dollars to charity when your family can barely feed would be an act of foolishness. One does not give what he does not have, you can give love only when you have one in you. I am @ernesto6402 and this is my position. One Love✌️