The Experience: restructuring the mindset
I always do tell myself that no matter my experiences with people, it won't have a negative effect on me but that won't stop me from learning the lessons each and every of these experiences taught me. I am that one person that never withdraw from helping people especially when am in the position to do cause there is this special thing (feeling) it does to my inner being.
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I always have this notion that the world have a large amount of good people compared to the bad ones and a start would be from me. From my first contact with an individual, I give this benefit of doubt to each and everyone thus taking away negative concept from my mind but we'll..... unfortunately a lot has abused the privilege making me to think good people with good conscience doesn't exist. First it was my encounter with a lady who came to me for help saying she was sick and needed to go get drugs but unfortunately she wasn't having cash on her. After so much thoughts I decided to give her the cash with me but unfortunately she sent a fake alert to me. Sure I was devastated but it didn't stop me believing we still have good people in the world but I learned to be wise with my dealings with people.
Fast forward to two years ago I met this friend and eventually we became so close to each other but all these while the issue of money never came between us not until he requested for some amount of money which was kind of huge and I did gave it to him since he was in need of it than I do. The rest of the story I believe we all know by now cause ladies and gentlemen I never saw my money. The date I had set to use the money was fast approaching that too for something so important to my life and career and I had no means of getting it. I begged and cried for him to return my money but he never did. I had no choice than to accept my faith and that was how I ended up not doing what I intended to do with the money.
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That experience did help restructure my mind and it taught me first never to lend money to people I know I can't leave it for them when worst comes to worst cause I will be hurting myself instead. Also it restructure my mind that as much as the world is full of both the good and bad, it shouldn't make me become the bad one rather I should be wise and smart when dealing with people rather than becoming the villain.
This post was inspired by the #inleo community and my entry to the monthly prompts #Novemberinleo for day 20 what's an experience that made you restructure your mind? to participate, click contest announcement
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Thank you for your time, peace 🕊️
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That is why my mum will always say, if you know someone can't pay back the money they owe, it's better to borrow them a lesser amount so even when they don't pay back, you won't be hurt or shake.
I'm sorry you had to experience that with a close friend of yours.
Your mom was absolutely right dr and I now know better.
Thanks for your concern babes.