ᴍʏ ᴅɪsᴛɪɴᴄᴛɪᴠᴇ ᴘᴇʀsᴏɴᴀʟɪᴛʏ ᴀɴᴅ ᴀᴛᴛɪᴛᴜᴅᴇ ᴛᴏᴡᴀʀᴅs ғʀɪᴇɴᴅsʜɪᴘ.
Humans are classified as social animals, among every other living beings on earth, it is a natural action for humans to communicate with each other in other to formulate connection among each other. in the process, relationships are formed either friendship or romantic relationship. Despite the necessity of socialisation in the lives of humans, it has never been my strong hold. I form different kind of relationship depending on the situation I'm in and once that is over I move on to the next stage without forming any tangible attachment.
It is not as if I don't care about the feelings of others or I'm not capable of showing affection, it is just that making friends is easier for me compared to keeping them. for someone with a complex personality such as mine, associating with people is not easy though it comes naturally due to my friendly nature. I have always lived the life of a bear in most part of my life, I have never been a fan of packs.
Right from my primary school days, I developed the habit of depending on my self for any form of affection or attention, you can say I'm not a fan of relationships. though in some ways most people tends to misunderstand my rigid personality for pride but it wasn't so. I just loved and prefer my own company. most children have the habit of forming groups, some kind of peer groups relationship but I never fit in, for some reason I was just different.
Most children tends to have a general habit but for me it wasn't so, I just find most of their attitude ridiculous, I guess I out grew my age 😂. my level of thinking was above my age, when other children prefer to play with toys, sands and other childish stuff, I prefer to draw, write funny fictional stories and swim. I enjoyed swimming a lot as a kid, then we had a swimming pool at our family house at ketu.
As time goes by I realise I have a distinctive personality compared to others, instead of creating a circle of friends, I prefer to just be on my own and do things my own way but for someone who enjoys his own company my inability to feign ignorance to those in need and also go extra miles to assist others whenever I can has always go contrary to my introverted personality. So instead of just keeping friends I try as much as possible to surround myself with like minded individuals, as long as you are the free minded type, selfless, absent of religious & gender bias and with a working brain, obviously you are my kind of person.
One thing that differentiates my kind of circle of friends from most is that, it is not a question of who I need, it is more about who is in need of me. being in the midst of a group of people I could offer my support freely which could be anything and also be free to be who I'm am. for example, during my days in school we find ourselves doing all kind of practicals and project. there are always two requirements for the practicals which involves creating a group and selecting a group leader. I have always been privilege to be a group leader for almost all practicals and project I partake in for different reasons.
Apart from having a group of my own, there are times when I still have a lot of people wanting to join my group but since it is full, I go all the way to create different groups for others. at the long run I find myself leading more than 2 to 5 groups and sometimes I find myself being overwhelmed by this responsibility, a duty I willingly took upon myself. My primary aim has always been to make sure everyone pass the course with no one left behind, this what my cycle of people or friends is made of.
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This write-up was inspired by weekly featured content titled "Making new friends" in hive learners community.
What a thoughtful journey of learning the value of reciprocity in friendship. So glad you found a positive confidante to help you grow.
Yeah, I found a purpose in what I find comfort in doing.
I can totally relate to this as I also find it hard to keep friends. I can be friends with someone for over 10 years and in the next minute stop talking to them entirely without feeling guilty or remorseful about it. People come and go in our lives and that's just how life is, I see no reason to feel bad about it
Exactly. Keeping friends should not be because of just having people around. It is about forming meaningful connections.
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Guess it's only right to say you can be for everyone and no one at the same time. But f there's one thing I know, people with your personality tend to hurt others easily, mastering the ability to walk away without hurting someone would be very vital for you.
I don't really walk away completely, I'm always there whenever they need me but I don't just form any attachments.
And make sure they too don't feel any attachment
Yay! 🤗
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I think you possess the traits of a leader, which is why you find yourself leading many groups. You're more of a 'get straight to the point' person than someone who keeps people around who are not beneficial to you.
Anyway, it's all good as long as you're doing the right thing. People are like that; most people don't know how to keep friends, but I think it's something you should learn because 'no man is an island.'
When it comes to keeping friends our opinion does differs, for me it is more about the purpose of the friendship.
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Lol such a huge task you took upon yourself. Me I always played the ignorant one o because I don’t need people depending on me 😂. It is now I’m learning to be independent and assist people the best possible way I can. It’s not easy but I think I prefer it than being the dependent one. Thank you for sharing.
#dreemerforlife
The thing about me is that, whatever I see people in need of my assistance and I know I'm capable of helping. At that moment it is as if I could feel their pain. So helping people in need kind of comes naturally for me, the most funny aspect of me is that I hate to depend on anyone for anything but I'm ok with people depending on me which is kind of weird.
Nice one 🤗
I think I got this insight from here ...
Easy to make friends but hard to keep them.
I have a lot of friends that are on this table. We got a long very well but a long the time, I got tired of dragging them and moved on
Having to keep friends feels burdensome to me sometimes and my offline social skills is not that great.
By reading this, it is obvious you possess the ability to become a leader and one who wants the best for others. Most times, it should be a matter of who needs us and not who we need. Surrounding ourselves with like minded individuals is another factor to consider when going for friendship.
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Yeah, I believe you got the entire gist of the post.
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Friendship is a big task for me. In recent times, i have condoned people for their misinterpretation of my styles of interpersonal relations. What I do to get over it's is to tolerate them on individual basis.
This has helped me navigate my way through.
#dreemerforlife
It sounds great but I find it difficult to keep tolerating things I'm not happy about. I'm kind direct in my approach to issues
It's a good thing you understood the kind of person you are and stayed true to it. Belonging to everyone and no one at the same time.
It's also good that you do surround yourself with like-minded people.
#dreemerforlife
There is peace of mind in being true to oneself.
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