Was I Selfish?
People can go any mile to ensure their loved ones are okay. Someone can be saving money for months, denying his desires, only to give it out to someone else when they ask for help.
Someone can set rules and be strict with them only to break them for another person.
I know that selfishness is inherent in humans, but it seems its power is usually weak around our loved ones.
I can't count how many times I spent my last money just to ensure that my siblings are okay.
Sometimes I will have needs, very pressing needs, but will keep them aside because I do not want to tamper with the little money I have. But the moment any of my siblings or my friends comes with a demand, I won't know when I transferred the money to them.
My digital bank transactions are a record of transfers to my family and friends, more than for personal expenses.
It is a good thing that we love those around us; however, I think it is not balanced if all we do is care more for others than we do for ourselves.
Most people don't know the last time they took themselves out and bought a nice gift for themselves, but they can't count how many times they took others out and treated them like kings and queens.
Sometimes, in the name of coping with responsibilities, we are careful when it comes to building ourselves to our detriment.
You spend a little money on yourself, and you begin to feel like you did something wrong. You cross-check the worth of the thing over and over.
Things are not supposed to be that way; we ought to first build ourselves before we build others. The truth is, if we neglect ourselves and focus mainly on others, when things go wrong with us, even those we think we are trying to give the best life would be affected.
But don't get me wrong, this doesn't call for selfishness; it doesn't mean we should focus only on ourselves and forget others. Rather, we should create a balance, focusing both on ourselves and those around us.
The last time I did something for my personal interest was two weeks ago. This time around, it's not about money or gifts but placing priority on my choice rather than that of my friends.
My friends and I were sitting at our regular spot in the evening, having nice conversations. It was a beautiful moment, I won't lie.
That day, there was a football match, and my friends wanted to watch it. One of them brought the idea that we should go to the nearest viewing centre and watch the match, but I objected.
Usually, I am someone who would have said “yes” and followed them even if I am not okay with it.
They told me about the match even before we came to that spot, and being three football lovers against just me, it is supposed to automatically make their verdict final but I stood my ground.
I insisted we go home, and it was not as if I had anything to do at home; I was not just interested in watching the match.
In the end, I won, they didn't watch the match, and we all went home. On our way back, I kept telling them to go back and watch the match if my decision didn't sit well with any of them, but none of them went back.
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