Relevance Of Good Upbringing

Relevance Of Good Upbringing

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Training a child is one of the most difficult tasks in life. It's like planting a seed in a garden and monitoring it until it grows into maturity and begins to bear Good fruit.

As individuals, we know how hard it is to groom ourselves to talk more of another person who has a different mindset and beliefs, though for children it's a bit easy because their minds are empty.

So, I commend the efforts of parents in training their children, it's not easy at all. No parent desires to see their child/children go wayward, even if they themselves are evil.

But you know, as humans even our best can never be good enough. No matter how a parent tries to bring up a child, creating balance on every side, there must surely be that aspect where the parents would be lacking. Sometimes it could even be in the process of trying to protect the child or providing for them.

One thing I will always be grateful to my parents for is teaching me to love my siblings while growing up. If you have read some of my posts before, you might have heard me say many times that I came from a polygamous family.

Those of you who came from polygamous families know the kind of drama that usually happens in such homes, most times there is always division in the family, either among the children or the parents but our home was not so.

My father taught us how to love each other right from when we were growing up. Our food was always joined together, whether you liked it or not you must eat with your siblings from the other mother.

Whatever we do my father ensured we did it together, so we grew up loving ourselves. I was so close to my half-siblings that I followed them to their mother's villages when they went on holiday.

I grew up loving people around me without showing any differences. We were many in the house but my Dad would always do everything for us equally. Whenever he gets anything for us, he divides it among us equally and we learn from there.

I also learned how to sacrifice, if you have ever eaten food with other kids and you were not the youngest, you would understand what I mean. Even when you don't want to stop eating, as soon as the food is remaining little, you have to get up and let the youngest person have it.

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At first, I didn't know it was discipline until when I grew up and discovered that I don't struggle to step aside and let others benefit if whatever is been shared is not much. My personal interest is no longer primary. This has helped me so much in fighting greed in life and all the credit goes to my parents.

This kind of upbringing is what I would love to impact on my children, we live in a very wicked world, people only think of themselves and not about others, love is also dead in the hearts of many, not even towards outsiders, but within their homes. If my kids should be able to have this type of upbringing, I believe it will do them well.

The Other Side

While growing up, one thing I didn't get the opportunity to enjoy was my parent's attention. Both my mother and father were hustlers, none of them went to school as such they were just so focused on their businesses trying to bring food to the table

They were so busy that they didn't often spend quality time with us. That made me become a loner from my earlier teens. There were points I needed them to share certain things bothering me but they were not there.

I had to learn how to tackle my issues myself and trust me, I made a lot of mistakes in life as a result but we learn from our mistakes.

Truth is, I won't put the blame on my parents, they have tried, and they really did well in raising me. It was not their fault that they couldn't give me sufficient time. I mean anyone in the shoes would have done the same thing.

Nevertheless, this type of upbringing is what I don't pray to occur in my life when training my children. Apart from being a parent, your child also needs you as a friend.

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