RE: Hive-Naija Weekend Engagement #69- “TRUST ISSUES”

I saw something similar to this on Facebook this evening and angry boys and girls, women and men almost tore the comment section with instant objections.

I remember the first day, I presented a lady to my mother as a friend, the old woman shouted, "ehh! Friend keh? With a lady? Actually, there was nothing going on between us but, Omo, sense came into my head instantly.

I am not saying there is anything wrong with having the opposite gender as friends but reality has proven countless times that in the end, only a few survived without love coming in or or things happening. If you are thinking anything, you are on your own, heheh😂

I have seen people say “he is my friend, she is my friend,” and at the end of the day, the lady got pregnant for the so-called friend, Guy😂!!!

To the question

Is it okay for partners to have best friends of the opposite gender in a relationship?

Omo, my answer is no. Not with me, I mean never. Heheh, this is not about trust issues or something but it doesn't make sense.

How can two mature adults of the opposite genders who are in a defined relationship have best friends of the opposite gender? Ah, ah, what are they looking for?

We know how the human heart is, emotion and us are like five and six, anything can happen anytime, any moment. Before you know it, feelings will develop and then you will be left with "am sorry, I didn't plan for it to happen that way," ahh!

If you need a friend of the opposite gender, what is wrong with your partner? Can't he/she be that friend? Let's tell ourselves the truth, having best friends of the opposite gender while you are in a relationship is a very risky thing.

Let's keep jokes aside, I know there is nothing wrong with it. There are people doing it but it's risky, it's like keeping a lion and a goat in the same room and saying to the lion, I trust you, don't eat it.

This thing is not trust issues, it's not lack of socialization, or whatever we may want to tag it, it is a costly mistake. There is a high possibility of losing your partner to that best friend of hers or his, open your eyes..

I didn't say they shouldn't have friends of the opposite gender but not best friends, there should be boundaries, nothing like best friends. Your partner is there if you need a best friend. They are a better option.

This is for your own good because having another person in the picture as a best friend can be a source of distraction for you and eventually, it might destroy your relationship and mess up your mental health.

I don rest my case here.

@dwixer, @smogg, @luchyl @bmhillel @rare-gem come and share your opinion with us

happy weekend guys