My Thoughts on Surrogacy

Photo by Deon Black

I won't lie, we are advancing very fast in all facets of life, a lot of things that were once a challenge to mankind have now been proffered solutions.

The issue of fertility is one of the things that has shattered many homes. So many couples who once loved themselves are now apart because of the issue of barrenness.

The annoying part is that in some of these cases, the blame is usually thrown at the woman and sometimes, the man who is supposed to stand by her at those trying moments, often turns his back too.

You will see a vibrant woman, once full of hope and joy turn into misery because of her inability to conceive. This matter hurts me a lot and it has always been my prayer that a way out would be provided for such victims. I am glad that surrogacy came, somehow it looks like a way out.

I have this couple in my area, they got married almost fifteen years ago, and they have no children. People mocked them, some insulted the wife and called her all manner of names and made life a living hell for her but guess what? Last year they opted for surrogacy and they are having a beautiful daughter right now.

People need to be sensitized. Children are gifts from God. If anyone is not able to conceive, the person shouldn't be mocked, instead we should encourage and give them hope.

All thanks to surrogacy many families are happy and have children to call their own.

For me, I don't see anything wrong with surrogacy if the need arises. Children make a family complete and happy. If the couple are okay with the idea, they shouldn't hesitate to go for it.

In the end, all that is needed is to have a child that both of you will see as your own, love and care for like it came from your loins.

I prefer this over adoption because sometimes there are couples who adopt children and don't treat them like they would treat a child who came out from them and trust me that's a very bad habit.

Just because a child didn't come from you doesn't mean you should treat him/her like a slave. Every child deserves to be loved and respected. Sometimes, that child might even be the reason for your deliverance.

Photo by Polina Tankilevitch

I am not praying for anyone to face infertility in their marriage but if the case arises, the couple shouldn't hesitate to embrace surrogacy, if they don't find adoption appealing.

The part I don't like about surrogacy is when an individual out of the fear of commitment chooses to surrogate. That makes no sense to me, children are supposed to be raised by a father and a mother.

I know life can happen and one of the two may not be present and no one is wishing for that. Such a case is understandable but deliberately deciding to surrogate to be a single parent and not having anyone coming to claim to be the father of the child doesn't appeal to me. If you don't want marriage, then I think you shouldn't want children either.

Surrogacy makes barrenness invalid, it creates a room for everyone to be able to have a child and enjoy their home, it's just so unfortunate that some people are using it wrongly.

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