Marriage Is Not Competition: The Negative Impact Of Social Media And Family Pressure On Marriage
There are many reasons why marriage is encouraged: reproduction, support, and, in most religions, to prevent immorality.
But honestly, looking at the way things are in our generation, if the above are the only reasons why one is getting married, then seriously, I don't see the need because even the singles can enjoy those privileges.
Recently, most people are opting for contract marriages, and the aim for most is to just have children, and the deal is done.
If we say, for support, once you have money, we can easily get support of any kind from anywhere.
We know how our society is. Back then, when I was in school, there were students who weren't married but lived with their lovers in the same apartment and shared everything literally.
Why am I bringing up all these things? Most people get married for the wrong reasons and at the end of the day, live in frustration and, at worst, get divorced.
If your reason for getting married is to have children, after having the kids, what's next? If it's for some kind of support, after getting it, what's next? And if it is to get some kind of satisfaction, trust me, you will get tired of it eventually. At that point, what's next?
Before settling down, we need to ask ourselves these questions very well: “Why am I getting married? Are my reasons genuine enough? Can they sustain me when the storm arises?”
If you can give yourself an honest answer, then you wouldn't see the need for all the competition and unnecessary pressure of the trends of young people getting married while you are still single.
I am not against the way people are getting married. Marriage is crucial, and unless it is for a good reason, all of us should get married, and it should be early if possible.
But it doesn't have to be out of pressure from social media, family, friends, and the community. Marriage is not children's play; it is a lifetime commitment.
It is not something anyone should rush. Yes, we are humans, and we can feel hurt when we see our younger ones being taken while nothing reasonable is happening on our end.
This thing mostly affects women, and when I see them responding emotionally, I understand. Some parents and families can be funny; they will compare you with both your younger ones and your mates who are getting married.
And continue to pressure you till you feel like something is wrong with you. But I'll be honest with everyone, that's a setup.
When you rush into marriage and begin to have problems, none of them will be there to face those issues for you. The best anyone can do is to give you words of encouragement.
There is time for everything in life. Rushing and forcing relationships and marriage to come simply because you feel you are getting old and your family is on your neck is not a wise decision.
I don't know for others, but age is nothing for me when it comes to love. Even if you are older than I am, if God is in support of our relationship and I love you, it is done.
Enough of this pressure, enough of beating yourself hard because you think time is running out. Marriage is not a race; you are not competing with anyone.
Instead of worrying and yielding to pressure, take the time and build yourself, build character, build your financial life, build your spiritual life, and be prepared for the next person that is coming into your life.
Most people don't know that the reason why they end up with the wrong set of people and still experience heartbreak in the midst of this kind of turbulence is because of desperation.
Once people notice you are desperate, they will disguise themselves and come around, waste your time, and leave. But when you are calm and busy with building yourself, it will be easy for you to spot what is fake, and because you know your worth, you won't be begging and forcing anyone to stay, even when you know they are not in your life for good.
It's high time we train our hearts to overlook the noise in our society from family, friends, social media, and so on. Everyone has their time to shine, don't rush yours.
The rate of marriage is high, and so is the rate of divorce. I can't tell why, this is more reason why we don't have to force this thing.
I know we have goals, but in life, we don't decide time; our major goal should be arriving at the destination and not how long it takes. If yours comes early, glory be to God; if it comes later, glory be to God. For now, be grateful and keep preparing yourself.
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