I Had To Stand up For Him

I Had To Stand up For Him

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Defending others is something we all ought to do but then it demands wisdom and also serious Cross examination first, because standing up for someone can also implicate you.

A few months back, a man accused an innocent widow who went to the market to buy food of stealing his manhood, angry youths didn't hesitate to beat the woman blue black but in the end, it was discovered that the man only lied, his manhood was there in his pants. Only God knows for what reason he took advantage of that innocent woman.

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What baffled me was, was there not anyone to stand for the woman when those youths were beating her? Love and trust are totally lost among humans now. Only God knows how many innocent people died for sins they didn't commit. Even if a person commits an act, taking the person's life won't solve the problem. What is the work of the police? There are better ways to resolve issues than using violence.

My stepbrother happened to be like the black sheep of the family, anything that gets missing in the house, the first person fingers point to is him. I won't blame anyone for that, he once had a record of stealing but he was caught and punished. Since then, everyone just concluded that he is a thief.

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I could see how uncomfortable he used to be whenever people displayed their lack of trust in him. In fact, I overheard him say while crying after being accused of stealing one of those days that, "since everyone concluded that he is a thief, he is going to continue stealing so that it won't be that he is taking insults for nothing."

I know no one knows the heart of a man, but I know that boy to some extent, even though he has bad peers, we tried talking him out of them but he wouldn't listen yet that boy has a good heart. He is someone who doesn't even know how to tell a lie, if he commits a crime, from the looks on his face alone you would know that he is guilty.

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One day my uncle's wife called him to help her do some house chores after he finished and left. A few minutes later she started shouting his name in the house looking for him. saying all manner of Ill things about the boy in the house, I didn't even know that he was in his room while she was ranting all this while.

I believe he tried to endure, but you know words are too strong, when he couldn't take it anymore he came out and responded to her while crying. My uncle came back instead of him to inquire what happened, he didn't, rather he started insulting the boy and threatening to beat him if he didn't provide the money he took. This boy is already 19 years old.

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The thing really moved me, this man claims to be our father, if my brother was his biological son is that how he is going to handle the matter? I got pissed off, I jumped into the scene and asked them how much the money was and she said five hundred naira. Gosh! It pierced me to the bones, so it's because of five hundred you are embarrassing your brother's son like that? See neighbors already coming inside to ask what happened.

I went inside and brought five hundred naira for them and shame caught the woman and her husband, they went mute instantly. I told my uncle "This is not how things are done, this boy is your child, I am not against you correcting him but you don't have to shame him before the whole community.

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If he has a bad name before people today it is going to come back to this very house, I expected you to call this boy sit him down, and judge the case like a man and not just try to show us that you have a wife and you love her more than us, or it is because our father is late?" The man's body went cold. They later rejected the money I gave them and apologized.

I called my brother and asked what happened he narrated everything and from what he said there were three there, the woman, him, and a friend of hers who brought her on his bike. What I did is I didn't make him feel he was innocent, I scolded him and told him to deceased from such an act if he is into it. I am not God I don't know if he is guilty or not but I hate it when people are shamed publicly. It doesn't look nice.

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After our conversation, "he told me thank you big broh and left." To date that boy loves me, he doesn't listen to anyone in the house like me. Whatever he is doing, once I come and say stop, he obeys.

We, are all humans, don't treat your brother badly just because he is caught in the act. I am not against correcting wrongs but at least you don't have to shame the person first. You don't have to make everyone see the person bad. Don't forget we all make mistakes sometimes, if you feel so bitter, you can hand it to the police and they will help you out.

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There is a family in my community I love so much, one of their sons is a big criminal but you barely see them dragging him on the street and painting him black, if he commits a crime they take him home and scold him sometimes even taking him to the police station themselves without allowing any third party into it.

If you throw your brother who is supposed to be loved by you out, where do you want him or her to get love from? This is the reason why some people feel unloved and go about doing even more evil. Correct in love and things will go well.

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