Contrasting Co-parenting and Single Parenting: The Perks And The Disadvantages

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Parenting is a very critical thing, while most people consider one's capacity to provide for the family as one of the primary criteria to start up a home, I am focused on one's maturity and knowledge of parenting and of course, being capable of providing basic needs as well.

Family is a broad subject, it takes a father, mother, and children to make up a family according to what I was taught in primary school. Going by that definition, anywhere either of the three is lacking the equation of family would be unbalanced.

It is not just about having a spouse, the major work comes in when children are born. I am certain that one of the reasons why we give birth is to ensure that our bloodline is preserved.

We want to have people that will carry our blood in their veins, people who will be like us carrying out attributes.

In most cases, we would feel so fulfilled when those individuals eventually become like us, contributing positively to society and making us proud.

This is where the issue of parenting comes in. Every child comes into the world as an empty slate, it is those things we input into them that form a basis for the path which they will take when they eventually arrive at the point of making decisions for themselves.

Parenting is not an easy task, in fact, sometimes, parenting doesn't even determine what a child becomes in life. There are cases where children were properly groomed but they ended up becoming a headache to society and vice versa.

Nevertheless, parents play a very vital role in the life of a child. It is something every parent should dedicate their time to and sacrifice anything possible to do properly, otherwise, they can Jeopardize the lives of their children.

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Can parenting provide more results if both parents are involved or is it just a matter of upbringing?

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Well, the above question is very difficult to answer but based on experience. I would say, that if both parents were to raise a child in a proper way, the result would be mostly excellent.

If it were originally designed for children to be raised by a single parent, then I think the institution of marriage wouldn't have been established in the first place. Probably, we may just have a situation whereby a woman who is ready to give birth would just be impregnated and after she has given birth, she may either decide to train her child or give it to the father.

Maybe the line between humans and some birds would have just been thin. But I believe that was not the aim.

Both parents have a role to play in the lives of their children, in the situation where any is lacking, it might result in a very critical problem in the life of those children.

Husband and wife are like half of a complete circle, where one is out, the circle will always remain half.

Most fathers are known to be disciplinarians and providers while mothers give love and morals mostly. Every child needs all those things to become reasonable in life. It takes God's mercy for a child to lack any of these and not have a challenge.

I won't deny the fact that some parents can play both the role of a mother and a father. I have seen that before but it's not easy and that vacuum will always be there no matter how hard the parent tries.

It's not anyone's desire that parents train their children without the other partner but it's inevitable, death and other circumstances can warrant things like this and when it happens, just be rest assured that the workload will be doubled.

I would also like to say that even in the absence of the other parent, a single parent can train a child in a proper way and make that child become successful in life with proper training, I am very sure that it is going to be something achievable.

Whether it is a single parent or both parents, what is required is "proper training." If that very ingredient is lacking, if the parents like they should even be three, nothing would prevent the child from going astray unless God intervenes. Co-parenting only makes the work easy by sharing the tasks among the parents but it doesn't guarantee automatic results.

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