Waiting to Receive You

Struggling can feel so personal at times, almost like no-one cares about our battles, the fights we make and challenges we have to overcome in order to achieve a sense of satisfaction, or at the very least, peace. There is of course a limited role that anyone can play in the struggles of another person no matter the level of active involvement. Regardless, there is a role that third party involvement does play and it is significant.

When people actively want to help they make it quite obvious, but rarely push or try to force anything. If you have someone driving you beyond your personal motivation then it is quite significant because it means the person probably cares more about you than yourself, which is an anomaly. It is especially strange because people have their own lives and experiences challenges on a daily basis to be too focused on another person, especially when that person's well-being doesn't directly impact theirs.

What this means is that we're meant to be the drivers of our own outcomes. We really can only get or even expect support when we fulfill this critical aspect of our own obligations to ourselves. The reality rather, Is that we judge ourselves quite harshly and people even more severe. Statements like 'no one cares' has become quite popular in our society today as a result. The reality isn't that nobody cares, but that many people will only offer support based off the effort we decide to put into our own issues.

Realising this has been big for me, as I've concluded that there will always be those in the moments I need them if I do my own part. The problem of course is enough self motivation and commitment to keep doing what is expected of us. Nobody can and should want more from us than we want from ourselves.