The Fear Of Being Rejected Or Not Being Loved In Return.

So many people are scared not because they have encountered danger at a moment or have found themselves in a difficult situations but they are scared being of being rejected. Especially when it comes to relationships matter or friendships. A young man will see a beautiful lady he likes, she dressing decent and tight, very respectful and obedience and a lady of his spec. But the boldness or courage to walk up to her and express his feelings is the problem. The guy might feels in his mind what if after I went and approach her, express my love and feelings to her but she turns me off and shows not interests in me, that will be a shameful thing to his personality.

Other guy will see another lady he likes and would like to talk to her but think in his heart, this lady is very brilliant and intelligent, she has been to higher institution and have obtained a degree or even a master qualification. This lady is certainly above my levels, she will not accept me knowing I have only diploma or a degree certificate. These men are scared of being rejected by the ladies they loves and have feelings for, even though they haven't told those ladies about how they feels for them. They didn't even took any step forward to make a move, but in their hearts they were scared.

Another man will have a great and life-changing ideas on a particular projects, but to bring out the ideas from his mouth or mind and present it to other coworkers is a problem. In his heart he might think what if this ideas sounds foolish or not well culture enough to their hearings, he will just lockup the brilliant ideas in his heart, refusing to share it out for fear of being rejected.

What about ladies, a young and hardworking man will approach them and ask them out for marriage. But because of the man's present predicaments, perhaps he doesn't have much money or resources they wanted, they will think this man will not be able to take care of their needs if they end up marrying him. They didn't see the future of that man but because of fear of not believing in the man's dreams they will declined his marriage proposal and maybe end up feeling regrets after not getting marry to that same guy after so many years has passed.

The Fear of being rejected, fear of not being loved and taken care of, and the fear of not making a step forward has landed and caused so many people loss and opportunities in life. Just this morning a friend of mine shared his experienced with me. He told he had been liking a particular lady for a very long time but couldn't be able to talk to her. Reasons is that she will not accept him because the lady knows his two past relationships that has broke up. To him if he tell her how he feels about it she might remind him his two relationships failed, how he couldn't keep his two failed relationships, then how would he keep her.

All of this reflected in his mind, he has never make a moved to the lady but he has concluded in his heart for fear of being rejected and not being loved because of his past two failed relationships. After few weeks, he saw the lady going out with another man different and was angry. I asked him why would he be angry since he has never make any move or approach her for fear of not being accepted.

I told him he has caused it by himself. He doesn't know the lady might accept him if he has approach her early as then. But now she is going out with another man that have the courage to approached her and she finds him attractive and interested.

In whatever you want to do in life, have courage and be positive with yourself. That things, business , relationship, projects, or marriage proposal you want to do, it could work and couldn't work out. But all you need to make a step first and watch the outcome. Is better to make a step forward and fail than to remain stagnant or in a dormant stage without moving forward at all.
Be positive in every decision you want to make in life.