Bitter truth vs Sweet lies
Good day my fellow #hivers, hope we are all doing well?
Back to the topic of the day. Let me start by reminding us of a bitter truth - and that is truth is bitter.
Let me rephrase my question: is it better to know the truth, even if it hurts? Is it better to face reality, or to live like Alice in Wonderland, enjoy a brief moment of bliss, and later suffer for a long time?
Ignorance is bliss, yes, but it only gives a short moment of peace and relief. Emphasis on short. That peace is temporary, it doesn’t last. It’s just a way of escaping reality for a while.
So please, tell me the truth, even if it breaks me. Knowing the truth early gives you time and space to accept reality and keep moving.
There are certain areas of life where truth is non-negotiable, areas that involve our growth, future, dignity, safety, and relationships.
If we are dating and you feel tired of me, or I suddenly irritate you, please tell me.
If I am wearing a dress or shoe that doesn’t suit me, and it’s coming from a place of love, please tell me.
Don’t try to protect me by lying or keeping the truth from me. I am a realistic person, and I love working with reality.
If you are married but have a child somewhere, tell your partner. The earlier, the better. Because if the truth stays hidden too long, the damage it causes when it finally comes to light is devastating.
You might think you’re protecting someone by lying, but my dear, the truth cannot be hidden forever. When it finally comes out, it may be too late for them to pick up the pieces you’ve broken. Facing reality then becomes harder, and moving on becomes almost impossible.
Personally, I prefer the truth always. No matter what it is, even if you think I can’t handle it, please tell me. I promise I can handle it and I’ll be forever grateful that I have someone real to work with.
Like I said before, keeping the truth only provides temporary mental protection, but in the long run, it causes huge damage. You lose respect and trust. The sense of betrayal it leaves behind stirs resentment. And the longer the truth is hidden, the greater the damage it will cause.
Hiding the truth is never a form of protection, especially when it touches the essential parts of one’s life. I’ll say it again: it only provides a short and temporary peace, and that’s it. In the end, it causes both you and the person you’re trying to protect a huge loss.
You live with guilt, always covering one lie with another. So why don’t we stop hiding the things that weigh us down inside?
For example, if you cheated on your partner, why not tell them? Or would you rather wait until they find out themselves, and you lose everything you were trying to protect?
Yes, it’s easier said than done. But still, let’s try. There’s always a right time, and everyone has someone or something that can reach them. With the right approach, right words, and right timing, even the deepest secrets can be revealed, and we might even be forgiven if we’re lucky 💖.
Let me share a personal story. Something happened in my house earlier this year, in January.
My stepmom had been very sick last year, but thankfully she was getting better. Then, this year, her mother died. We didn’t know how to break the news to her because she has high blood pressure that could spike at any moment.
We tried to manage her condition carefully, always cautious about what we said around her. So we kept the news from her for a while. But it was her mom, and of course, there would be a burial she needed to attend.
One day in January, she was sitting in the living room, and my elder sister just went straight to her and said: “Mommy, your mom is dead ooo. I said I should tell you.” To our surprise, my stepmom simply replied: “Okay, everybody will die one day.”
We were shocked. We thought she couldn’t handle the news. We forgot that she had already lost a husband and a brother, yet she kept moving forward. She handled the news with so much strength, more than we expected.
She truly loved her mother, they were both teachers, and she had stayed with her mom during her old age until last year when she herself fell sick.
So, what am I trying to say with this story?
Should we hide the truth from people because of how we think they will feel? Or should we just be plain and tell the truth, no matter how much it hurts?
The reality is, even the truth we hide will eventually come to light in the long run.
So for me, let’s always find a way to convey the truth to the people in our lives. No matter how hard it may seem, let’s find the right way to communicate it.
Well, let me hear your thoughts and contributions in the comment section.
Thank you for stopping by.
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