¿Qué no es, ser asertivo?

Por otro lado, están las cosas ofensivas que decimos, porque somos asertivos; y tendemos a imponer nuestra opinión y hasta nuestra voluntad, con la justificación "de ser asertivos".

Imponer tus ideas no implica arrollar al otro, pues hay formas de hacerlo respetuosamente, y exponer que es la opinión personal, tu parecer; solo, que se dice con seguridad y tratando de que se te respete la libertad de hacerlo, sin arrollar a nadie.

Ser asertivo no es opinar sin reflexionar antes, si lo dicho es políticamente correcto o no.

El respeto no se negocia, para nadie; ya que, cada quien debe respetarse con lo que piensa y con lo que es; por eso, se expresa libremente lo que se escoge decir, con respeto y educación.

Tampoco es ser perfecto y tener las mejores relaciones del mundo, pues, el hecho de que digamos lo que creemos y tratemos de que nuestras opiniones vayan dirigidas a solucionar problemas, no significa que nuestras relaciones deban ser perfectas.

Todas las relaciones son distintas, difíciles y complejas; por eso es que es importante la negociación, dependiendo del vínculo o lazo afectivo que se tenga.

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¿Qué sí es, asertividad?

Asertividad es tomar conciencia de lo importante que es, ser como creemos ser; ejecutar en forma natural lo que se supone que creemos que somos.

Tenemos el derecho de decidir lo que queremos ser, pero entendiendo que existe una repercusión social y una repercusión política o de transformación, que ocurre con nuestras acciones.

Otra cosa sería que, asertividad es elegir patrones personales; y no necesariamente tienen que tener rasgos de tipo agresivos, sino claros y respetables.

Y también, que, asertividad es aprender a decir que no, como una imposición de límites que preserva mi bienestar, sin molestar a nadie y sin pensar en si vamos o no, a quedar bien con otras personas, ni someternos a la manipulación social tan frecuente en las interrelaciones humanas.

Lo importante es, que todo el mundo entienda lo que creemos, lo que estamos pensando y, si es necesario, explicar por qué lo hacemos; pero esto no es obligatorio.

Recuerda que, aclarar los malos entendidos es una cosa y dar explicaciones, porque así nos los exige el resto, es otra.

Que pasen todos, un excelente domingo, y que comencemos una semana de crecimiento y transformación en @holos-lotus con energía y disposición al cambio.

Assertiveness, freedom and respect -Reflections on the 7th Day Sunday of well-being-

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Nothing empowers more than being able to say what you believe, what you feel, and expect to be respected.

Therefore, to be assertive is to respect yourself as the first option; to decide that the way you express yourself or respond to situations is autonomous, without fulfilling the expectations of others.

But, above all, assertiveness implies that you have a high level or sense of justice, because you consider that your rights and the rights of others are respected and considered.

I don't know how much we understand what assertiveness means for self-esteem and for the empowerment of the human being; but, both in work relationships and in personal relationships, being assertive can save you a lot of problems and can make relationships honest, clear and have a sense of common growth.

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What is not being assertive?

On the other hand, there are the offensive things we say, because we are assertive; and we tend to impose our opinion and even our will, with the justification "to be assertive".

To impose your ideas does not imply to overwhelm the other, because there are ways to do it respectfully, and to expose that it is your personal opinion, your opinion; only, that it is said with security and trying to respect your freedom to do it, without overwhelming anyone.

To be assertive is not to give an opinion without reflecting before, if what is said is politically correct or not.

Respect is not negotiable, for anyone; since, everyone should be respected with what they think and what they are; therefore, you freely express what you choose to say, with respect and education.

Nor is it to be perfect and have the best relationships in the world, because the fact that we say what we believe and try to make sure that our opinions are aimed at solving problems does not mean that our relationships must be perfect.

All relationships are different, difficult and complex; that is why it is important to negotiate, depending on the bond or emotional tie we have.

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What is assertiveness?

Assertiveness is to become aware of how important it is to be as we believe ourselves to be; to execute in a natural way what we are supposed to believe we are.

We have the right to decide what we want to be, but understanding that there is a social repercussion and a political or transformational repercussion that occurs with our actions.

Another thing would be that, assertiveness is to choose personal patterns; and they do not necessarily have to have aggressive type traits, but clear and respectable ones.

And also, that, assertiveness is learning to say no, as an imposition of limits that preserves my well-being, without bothering anyone and without thinking about whether or not we are going to look good with other people, or submit ourselves to the social manipulation so frequent in human interrelations.

The important thing is that everyone understands what we believe, what we are thinking and, if necessary, explain why we do it; but this is not mandatory.

Remember that clarifying misunderstandings is one thing and giving explanations, because that is what the rest demands of us, is another.

Have a great Sunday, everyone, and may we begin a week of growth and transformation in @holos-lotus with energy and willingness to change.

Emilio Ríos – Venezuela
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