Ladies of hive Community Contest #144: Intimate partner violence
This is my response to this week's #Ladiesofhive contest, topic by @joanstewart, there are a lot to pick but I will go with this, a matter which has been existing for long and is being taken with levity because the abused keeps quite.
🔸 Intimate partner violence: Intimidation, threats, or verbal abuse. Expand on what you know or how you deal with this matter considering almost one-in-every-four homes appears to suffer silently
Intimate partner violence is an abuse or aggression that occurs in a relationship/ marriage
It is always obvious when it is all about beating and seeing marks on the person that is being abused and raises suspicion among people be it their family or friends and they still have to stay because they don't want a broken home or so that they can take care of their children, some loose their lives in the process, the most dangerous yet not visible is emotional abuse. Partners use this to manipulate or criticise their partners, this is common in both gender, but women are always at the receiving end. They die in silence without anyone noticing, consistent use of abusive words and behaviours that reduces one's self esteem, body shaming, calling names especially after changes that occurs in child birth, making one feel guilty and apologizing for what you did not do and their main goal is to silence the person, isolate them and make them feel they are not good enough. Most men feel if they are not beating you, then every other form of abuse is invalid
I attended a valedictory service of students last week Saturday and there's a woman sitting in front of me,. after a while the husband came and she beckoned to him to come sit beside her , he came and every bit of their conversation was loud, it was time for the parents of the graduating students to come out and she told him but he shouted at her and it was only the woman that joined their daughter, after coming back the woman tried to converse with him, he acted like he didn't hear her, I felt bad on her behalf, if he could do this to her in public, I wonder what he will do indoor, it is not a good thing to be ignored and be given silent treatment, women easily get affected with this because we crave for attention from whom we love and claim to be our partner
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I agree with you in that, many people think that abuse is only blows; when many times, words and attitudes are much more harmful!
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Exactly, some words pierce through our hearts and make us feel bad.
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One feels so bad when one sees this kind of scenes and if we all wonder how will be the intimate life of that partner, it is even scary to think what he will say or do when they are alone, so it is important to teach women whatever their age that this is not normal or healthy and that we must avoid these situations even if it means leaving the relationship.
You are right
The more reason why women needs to have high esteem of themselves. The moment we start feeling we might not get or see better then we have reduced ourselves and moving on will be difficult.
Thanks for the lovely comment
Thank you
Awards for children, either both parents should be invited up, or perhaps only the children go onto the stage.
This may not be the right place or time to announce to everyone your outlook, also something the college or school should consider.
"It takes a village to raise a child" - African Proverb, we need the village structure back, too many abandon the many involved from nurses, teachers, doctors all come into contact with children.
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! help(no space) to get help on Hive. InfoYou are right. A lot needs to be amended. Thank you for the beautiful comment