LOH Community Contest #178 ~ Take a break/ I choose me

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Splendid morning to the beautiful ladies in the community. It's been a while since I last participated in the weekly post and to say after going through this week's Ladies of Hive Community Contest #178 I decided that I would be answering the both questions.

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The first question says;

We women are known for carrying out several activities at the same time. Somehow we always balance our schedules to accomplish them all, even though sometimes that brings us excessive fatigue. My question is: what do you do when you feel exhausted? How do you regulate your physical, mental, and emotional state to be yourself again?

As a lady, and one with so many responsibilities who also have a responsibility of taking care of herself, the best way I regulate my physical, mental, and emotional state to be myself again, especially in situations when I am tired is to shut everyone out, I shut myself from the world, from the situations or things I am currently doing that is bringing me to such state. At this point, I begin to do me, begin to look out for myself, begin to look out for my state and how to balance myself because I have this mentality that always reminds me when I consciously or unconsciously stretch myself more than I should which says; "That I need to keep living, I have to give myself a break and take a rest from everything because if I die, what is supposed to happen when I was alive will still happen when I am no more."

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So, whether I stretch myself to a certain point, I take a break and rest, I rest from everything, both physically, mentally, and emotionally, if it is a dire situation, at that moment when I feel myself slipping, I pretend like that situation isn't in front of me and take a break, shut myself from stressing and thinking too much or more than necessary. I begin to do what I love doing, going out with friends or buying my favourite snacks and eating when I feel like eating, at this moment, this is me being carefree and pretending to be oblivious to what is happening around me.

Until I am sure I have regained my state of mind back to normal and stable, I will make sure not to indulge myself in anything that will end up stressing me physically, emotionally, and mentally. I have seen women break down, I have seen women slump and die, I have seen women look older than their age and even their partner due to stress, I have seen women have complicated health issues due to stress and truth be told, I do not want to experience such. So when I feel myself slipping, I take a break away from everything.

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What do you think about the phrase "𝐅𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭?" Do you agree with it? Or do you prefer the phrase "𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐦𝐲 𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲." I would like to know what you think.

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For someone who has put her family first, and is ready to sacrifice her life and happiness for them, I should be agreeing to the phrase "𝐅𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭" but after seeing so many things, after encountering so much that has made my heart shattered and realized that nobody will love me as I would do myself, I think I prefer the phrase "𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐦𝐲 𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲."

Now, this is what I think about the phrase "𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐦𝐲 𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲," it doesn't mean that you don't love your family or wouldn't go out of your way to help them of situations calls for it but being one's top priority means you would always think about your physical, mental, and emotional state and would always put yourself first regardless of what happens because everyone is looking out for themselves, their own interests what would favour them. Nobody will look out for you as much as you should do for yourself.

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It is funny, that I learned this the hard way, but I am glad I did, not stretching myself more than I am supposed to do just for the family while putting my health, physical, emotional, and mental well-being into consideration has helped save me from a lot of unwanted and unnecessary burden off my shoulder and has kept me in check. As I said, it doesn't mean that I don't care for them as much as I used to do before, but it only means that whatever plan I am making, whatever thought I have, I put my well-being and health into consideration first to be sure that whatever happens, I am still in check.

Putting or seeing myself as my top priority, doesn't change the love I have for my family, and neither doesn't change that I am willing to make sacrifices and adjust when there is a need, but it only means that in every situation, I think about myself and make sure I am making the right decision that will favour myself too. Making sure, that whatever happens, I will be able to come out of it without destroying me because when I am gone, my family will continue their life, and what is supposed to happen will still happen when I am no more.

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This is my entry to the two questions by Ladies of Hive Community Contest #178

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