The pain of betrayal : remembering the friend who hurt me
As I reflect on my past, I realized that I have had friends that betrayed me, these people are known as two faced friends, they can say nice things in front of you but behind you it's a whole different story that can blow your mind. They have a habit of gossiping behind your back without your knowledge, everything they say to you is sugarcoated and they are dishonest and only say things that you want to hear and this becomes a problem because they won't stop you from making regretful decisions even when they are aware of the consequences. Toxic friends often have a weak moral, for example even when things go wrong they tell you not to take ownership of your wrong doings.
Good friends are mature and responsible, they guide you on the right path, they listen earnestly to you and try to understand where your coming from, and sometimes the conversation you have with them can be really deep. to find out whether someone is a good friend ask yourself do they often respond when you talk to them about your problems, are they patient and empathetic or are they bored and indifferent. Friendship is built on trust, mutual understanding and loyalty, During my school days i had a friend which I trusted so much, told all my secrets to and even made my pillar. But one day it all changed when I had the bitter taste of betrayal from someone i considered as my friend.
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We met in university, bonding over shared interest and laughter our friendship grew and I became blinded by the word friendship and so I confided all my secrets to him. The betrayal began with small lies and broken promises. He would cancel plans which we have made at the last minute and gave excuses as to why he canceled, at first I thought it was because of his lackadaisical attitude and carelessness but the incident kept on occurring until one day I discovered that he had shared my secrets with mutual acquaintance, mocking my vulnerability. I became devastated, the pain was suffocating and i felt exposed and foolish for trusting him. How could someone i trusted so deeply betray me? The friendship i cherished was a scam and a lie, hiding a web of deceit and manipulation.
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The betrayal still lingered and I found it difficult to trust anyone after the friendship ended abruptly. I questioned my judgement and self worth but in all the experience taught me a valuable lesson. With time and reflection I healed, surrounding myself with genuine friends which respected my boundaries and i also learned to prioritize self care and always put myself first.
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In conclusion, though the wound aches as betrayal from a friend cuts deep leaving a lasting scar but It also present opportunity for growth, self discovery and for us to emerge more stronger, wiser and better. The memory of that friend serves as a reminder to cherish authentic relationships and prioritize my own well being.