Navigating Through Life's Ups And Downs
Life is unpredictable. Just when you think everything would be fine, suddenly it goes wrong. I've come to realize our decisions, actions and inactions work together to create these experiences.
After my youth service, I felt getting a Job would be easy, my faith was strong, my hope was high. I rejected an offer at my place of primary assignment because I felt I had all things figured out. My account was good and I had a few bucks saved in my wallet to help me survive a few months. I already told a few of my friends my strategies and detailed steps to achieve each objective. I made so many plans for the future but forgot to make plans for the "Ifs" and the "unseen circumstances" that take on us unaware.
I returned home and the first thing I noticed was the changes that had happened over the year I've been away. Suddenly I became the bread winner, three people depending on me for their daily welfare. My younger brother was the one doing the spending until I returned and he felt a bit of relief. Soon all the money I felt I had was spent on welfare. It was one problem after another until I had to become a prayer point. For the first time I regret coming home, and not having accepted the Job offered to me.
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It didn't end with just going broke from being financially stable, I went into debt. While people still saw me as the financially stable guy they knew, only me knew the hell I was going through to maintain the family's welfare. You may probably wonder how I managed to scale through- They say to every path, there are footsteps of those who had a trail through those paths. I knew I was gradually losing it, I had to open up and to someone who had been in the same position I was
What I learned during those times was that "I can't solve everyone's problem". I think that was what I was trying to do, and the second thing I learned was "Whether I solve their problems or not, they'll still be fine regardless". So it was me all the time trying to do beyond my capacity and life saw that as an opportunity to push me off the cliff. The only way I managed the situation was to be sincere to myself and to everyone. I traveled to a different town to stay with a friend and try to pay back my debts. But the entire event had a huge impact on me
Life would always teach us the hard way, especially when we fail to plan for eventualities. Well, it's a great lesson you learnt from the experience and now, you can better advise anyone going through the same experience.
!BBH
That's true, those period were period of learning and it had taught me something to teach others
Wow..I Love that you became sincere to yourself. Sometimes , all we need is to tell ourselves the truth...and puking out from a situation will begin
That's true and that's why pretence only make things worse
I know they say family first but for me always put yourself first in everything because have it in mind that u can't satisfy anybody if we go broke today cuz of the same family we are trying to please they will still be the one to complain about you, l really learnt a lot from reading your post
I'm glad you were able to learn something, and yes, we can't satisfy everybody, if we keep trying to make things right, we'll eventually become broke or even worse than they are
Exactly u get the point
Life is a clean example of the word "Unpredictable." Just learn to manage situations when they present themselves and you will be fine.
Yeah, ability to survive in any given circumstances is a rare gem
It is well, you really stood for your family.
Only that one can't turn the hands of time.
Rejecting a job offer without a better one in sight is always an issue.
I have tried not to make that mistake in lufe.
But then again, who knows, may be God driving one into a better possible position.
Kudos to your ability to navigate and pull through.
That's true, better one has one at hand to reject any.
You gerrit.
Getting into debt is always scary, but the important are the lessons that we learn!
Yeah, this is true
Life is indeed unpredictable it have it own of teaching us things life is not a bed of roses there are many up and downs am happy you learnt from your experience.
Yeah, life teaches us lessons in ways we least expect