The way of pain
Silent rejection happens to people that we truly love, and we go silently just because we respect them or because we love them. People express great pain with silence because pain like this is always tough to express, most people just choose to keep quiet and live with it even though if we had opened up might have been handled better but because it is so painful and is coming from somebody that we love or respect, we hold it in, which can create further problems for us because what this does to us is that it kills us from the inside.
Everything in life has stages. Sometimes, the pain we are going through is a result of accepting the initial stages from someone, and it graduates into what we cannot handle. Most people accept simple pain simply because of love, respect, and sometimes because of fear, and what this does is that it graduates to another level, which often happens in relationships and It might be a lovers' or parental relationship where we don't choose rejection at the beginning and we choose to accept whatever is thrown at us out of love and understanding.
Tolerance is a poison that kills gradually and slowly
Sometimes, we hold on to the promises of change, we hold on to it because we don't want to lose the person who causes us pain, and this is one of the mistakes we make in life. We let our emotions decide our future. We let what we are feeling choose the end part for us because we already see from the beginning what might the relationship, and if they are the kind of person we stalk with for life, maybe like our parents, we permit them to change who we are. This results from letting our emotions decide, which, at the end of the day, only leads to rejection.
Some of us are forced to live in pain just because our survival depends on it. Some of us will live in pain because we want people to see us differently, and we want social acceptance. This can be very dangerous because it affects our mentality and kills our beliefs. It makes us forget who we are, and if we are not careful, we might lose our lives and lose what we stand for in the process. because pain has a way of changing people into what they are not even this change might come and we might not know it, but they are eating us from the inside.
Why can't we let it go
The question that is worth asking is, why can't we go? It is always easy to let go when it is physical pain, but when it's emotional pain. Even when we reject it by walking away, it always leaves its mark on us, which means after we have been done with the pain, the effect often stays with us for the rest of our lives. That is why pain is very dangerous. It is one of those things we shouldn't allow in our life. It is one thing we should not tolerate because it is powerful. It can overwhelm us. It can control us, change us, and even kill us.
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I have lived with pain throughout my stay with my uncle and I never disclosed it to anyone. I never told anyone but was dying silently
Pain... We feel this thing called pain everyday maybe from one thiny mistake or a huge one, everyday we experience pain but when it has to do with the matters of the heart, it becomes something we should be very careful about.
No matter how hard we try, we can't choose the people we want our hearts to beat unusually for but then letting go is a choice we have to make by ourselves and for ourselves and it's never going to be easy.
In every relationships there are red flags and the Sooner we see these red flags the better for us. For me when we say we love someone and we are scared to tell them they are wrong when they are wrong, then that is a red flag.
In a relationship where only one person's choices precedes the other person's own, that's a red flag except of course you know the other person is surely good at making the best choices.
But letting go, we have to face it's consequences, we can't avoid it no matter how hard we may try.
Here I am wishing you are not going through something like this because it's not really something I can even wish for someone I hate if there is any.
Pain is pain no matter the type, but the response and attention given to the cause will tell how deep the feeling will be. It's either we let it go or we find the root cause of the pain and solve the problem
I used to subscribe to the mentality of tolerating pain for the greater good, so to speak. But individually, the cost of it can be too high that it doesn't seem to worth it. I think we should always speak up about emotions, when things feel wrong. Instead of keeping it all inside.
It's hard but life goes on. I think it's better to talk about it with some close friends. In a way, I don't think it's good to always bottle it all up because it could just blow up somewhere without you expecting it to.