Be ready to carry your cross
A friend of mine called me today, and he shared his story with me. Why is he confused about who to marry? He said he had this girl that he loved so much, but this girl doesn't have any skills or any zeal about life, She's not serious about life, but he love her so much because this girl, apart from the fact that she does not have any skills, she is a submissive lady, and she has always been there for him when he has nothing, and there is this other girl that he is dating, she is skilled and She's also pretty, and she's also submissive, but just that he doesn't love this other girl that much.
My friend is a knowledgeable guy. The boy is not sure whether to go for love or go for somebody that he can secure his future and his children's lives with because just getting married to a woman who can't even take care of your kids properly because he's not serious. He was seeking advice from me and I didn't even know what to say because I knew at the end of the day, he would go with somebody he loved, there is always a saying that we should never let go of love, but let's come to look at it. Is it true that some things matter more than love? Should we put our emotions aside and focus on somebody who can help us but what if they don't love us in return?
Love can melt a rock but is this one coming at a cost?
The truth is, my friend is planning to go with love, and he thinks that at the end of the day, she will change, she'll be serious about life. With his encouragement, his girlfriend will learn a skill, and they will be fine, but based on my understanding, this might be coming at a cost. Let's assume that the plan doesn't work out, maybe she was even trying to learn skills but she is not getting it all. my friend will be stuck with a girl who doesn't have any skills, who is not serious, and who is probably terrible at taking good care of his kids for the rest of his life, which is very risky.
My friend doesn't care, he still wants to go with someone he loves and somebody who makes him happy, believing they will work things out, and this is one of the major problems we have in the world. we already see the problem, and we know every red flag even there is a saying that nobody is perfect, and when we are trying to look for perfection in anybody, it makes us a little bit unrealistic with ourselves, but the truth is, there is always a better option for us. Still, we just choose to accept our fate like that. He will be the only person carrying the family, but what if something happens to him in the future? How will his family cope? Must we be selfish with our decisions regarding marriage?
Carry your cross
I know we've been told several times that we should not marry rubbish but most people that do are not their fault. Sometimes, it is love that overclouds judgment because they see the truth and they just choose not to accept it. Whether you marry rubbish or not, you should be ready to carry your cross. Nobody is perfect, so there is always one downside to everybody, so be ready to carry your cross and live with it for the rest of your life. As for my friend Whether it works out or not, only God knows that, but he should be ready to face whatever comes out of the marriage. Whether we are selfish with our decisions or we choose what is best for our children, at the end of the day, we should accept anything that we are getting.
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You will hardly know what to say cause one you hardly know much about those ladies and secondly you wouldn't like to take the blame if he ends up making the wrong decision.
Honestly that's a critical moment that wisdom comes to play and one has to go for the most important thing that matters to him.
This is true and we shouldn't blame anyone for it cause we are the one that made the final decision.
You don get, I don't want trouble because human can be crazy at times.
Many people don't always see it like that
It's tough but nobody knows if he is making the right decision. He is definitely gambling though on whether or not things will work out. I don't know what I would do in his situation but letting him know and prepare is a good thing. At least he can figure out how he wants to proceed with life and life is all about making choices.
Marriage is very crucial in a man's life and we must be careful about the decisions we want to make
This is a very tricky one and each decision made carries long term consequence. I think he'll have to use his mind too and not only his heart. At the end of the day, the cost we're going to pay for the decisions we made may not be worth it. Especially, when we had better options that would've cost us less.
One thing about love is most times it can actually so much blind you that you will not be able to even see what you ought to see and at the end of the day, you begin to suffer from it. It is a tricky situation here because it seems your friend is lost in love which is quite so terrible. This thing about love, it will die down after marriage. Quite a risky step your friend is actually planning to take actually