For the one who honed my craft

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I had a love/hate relationship with his class.

I thought he was arrogant, condescending, demanding, and full of himself. I remember he used to use language in the classroom that was not really befitting the Jesuit halls of the prep school I attended, but somehow - it didn't really seem to offend. He had this manner; you longed to dislike him but no one ever did. We wanted to roll our eyes at his defiant stare, but found ourselves smirking in spite ourselves when we saw the twinkle flash from his eye.

Don't ask me what a funeral director was doing as a creative writing professor for high school students, but that is exactly what he was. Tall, lanky and hilariously morbid, he would slink between the aisles of our classroom like a ghoul. Walking past us slowly, hands clasped smoothly behind his back, he would pause at a random desk. The pulse rate of the student would skyrocket and though we tried to hide our terror, the rapid tremor at our jugular would betray us. With sick pleasure, he would slide towards the next aisle. There was no need to pelt that student with an unanswerable philosophical musing. Seeing the fear he induced had been enough for his twisted sense of humor.

We should have all detested that class, but not one of could find it in ourselves to ever speak those words. Because sick as he was, morose as he feigned, we loved him. We absolutely adored that man.

He gave us tools of the English language we never knew existed. Power surged from our fingertips as we typed our way to the unfailing admiration that would rise in his eyes, paper after paper, play after play. Poetry popped with new passion. Prose presented particularly posh! 😏 At 17 years old, we felt like real writers. He expected it, and we wanted nothing more than its validity.

He was one of the only teachers that called me by my real name. Though I hated it from others, from him - it felt appropriate. Addressing us with formal names began to morph us. Winding its way deep into the core of our being, those rarely used aliases began identifying us as the mature adults he was shaping us to be. It felt forbidden and secret, like he was retaliating against some unspoken directive to keep us children. But it was only giving us a foretaste of the future landscape, and helping us choose identities and set our standards high. We loved him because his expectations replaced our cowardice with confidence. His pride at the end of the year proved we deserved a seat at any table, and could even lead at the head, should we so choose. Before the world would belittle us with threats of failure and mediocrity, he dared to whisper greatness into our spirits.

When I think back to some special teachers I've had over the years, I want to endorse my homeroom Latin teacher, or my sophomore year algebra professor. I excelled in their classes, and I was most likely the teacher's pet there. My art class teacher was a family friend so of course, I had special favor in his room. There are several others that bring a quick smile to my face as I flip through pages of of memories in my mind, but I do believe that Vincent Vanston placed first among my choices. However, Mr. Vanston did not have a favorite. He feigned equal detest for us all! haha But we all positioned ourselves to be his best, his brightest and his most brilliant. And deep down, he made us all believe that we were.

Thank you, Sir. You will forever be remembered for making me believe.



This post was my tribute for someone that has passed, outside of our family. It is week 2's prompt for our DreemPort collaboration with Hive Memorial Forest, a community started by @beeber for memorializing posts on the blockchain, in honor of those who have passed away. Thank you @beeber!

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I began chuckling at how you described him in the beginning. He sounds delightful. He's what I like to read in novels and all. And towards the end, I felt sad-sweet at the fact that he was gone because teachers like that, are not easy to come by.

P.S.. I'm sorry I couldn't participate this week. I just had no one in mind. I tried to think to the point I nearly wrote about Jesus but then remembered he's alive.

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He sounds like a really special teacher :) Was he also a writer?

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yes hahaha he was also a writer

but one of the students who got mad at him said, "those who can - do. those who can't - teach."

I was like.... 😲😝

and I would have felt bad for snickering but HE laughed the hardest...hahahha

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And why would they assume that because he teaches, he's not writing too? Going over the techniques regularly can only make one a better writer?

!LUV

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hehehe no - it was worse.

he was insulting him saying he was incapable with the "can't"
LOL

but i think they were like that with one another... sarcastic with one another hahahah

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That's definitely not a typical student / teacher relationship 😂

!PIZZA !PIMP

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right??? hahahaha

Mr. Vanston welcomed that kind of bite - but there was a rare student that would take him up on that kind of banter. hahahahaha

Most of us were still trembling when he'd open his mouth hahahaha but looking back??? he was really a fun teacher that just liked to get us going hahahaha

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I've come across teachers like this😅. They take you to the apex of terror and live you there. Somehow, I always felt that beneath the high walls, the teachers I came across were actually angels nut like Mr. Vanston.

This was beautiful tribute ✨

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I think we all at one point in our life have had such teachers, as much they instill fear in us, we just keep loving and respecting them.

RIP Good sire.

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May his Soul Continue to Rest in Peace Amen 🙏
Some people are not what we may thought they are at First but with time we will see it
Came from @dreemport

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A teacher with an open heart sure knows how to make his students serious, its a sad thing to loose a teacher and one can think about it even if they aint close relation. Very sad.

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I read this on my phone so am now coming back a fair bit later to upvote and drop you a comment hehe. I really should consider putting key chain on my phone so I can log in to Ecency, upvote and comment directly when I lie awake at night sometimes surfing posts from the comfort of my bed 😂The thing is, I use Gina to visit posts and it goes to peakD. I use Friday too sometimes so that could work I guess... I'm rambling !LOLZ

I loved your post! See I got there in the end hehe. He sounds like a very interesting character, your teacher. A funeral director - what the heck? It sounds like he was able to live out his own passion eventually among the living. You know.... the ones that inspire and make us nervous about failure... the teachers that challenge us, push us to our perceived limits, and guide us through them, sometimes with gentle encouragement, sometimes with a kick up the ass... ROFLLLLL.... but always with the best intentions - they are the ones we remember and look back on with the greatest fondness... because they are the ones who truly make a meaningful impact on our lives. My language teachers did that for me at school. English, Afrikaans and French - I loved all three... they were intelligent, approachable, and challenging! I am so happy... and I mean more than so happy... like super duper happy that he helped you to identify and hone your ability to write so intelligently, sensitively, and beautifully... he lit a fire and taught you to sustain it. And you have continued to develop and hone it yourself over the years. Hmmm.... now I want another Dreemie fiction... sigh (I may just have to add that to my daily list! hehe💗) !LUV !LADY

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hahaha he was so great. but i didn't appreciate him fully until i wasn't terrified by him anymore hahahahahaha

and i think you don't have to download keychain for your phone - you can just download ecency as an app on your phone and then log in once
and then you're good. i think
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he really did light that fire. there were so many rules to learn and methods to practice. but the thing that made me REALLY think holy cow... i think i actually can do this... was in the second semester of the year - everyone had to write a play - and then act it out with friends! hahahahaha

freaking wild!!!

mine had a really snarky rebellious defiant girl - with a feisty relationship with her mom.

I played the girl - and he asked me if the role was typecast ROFLLLLLLLLLL see?!?!?!? LOL

and then he just glared at me, with this hint of brash amusement in his eye. and I dont know what i answered. but yeah - i think he was always actually WAITING for the ballsier students to play back with him. but it wasn't fun for him unless they stepped up on their own hahaha

i realized it too late. cuz i would have had some words for him ROFLLLLLLLLL

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mine had a really snarky rebellious defiant girl - with a feisty relationship with her mom.

I played the girl - and he asked me if the role was typecast ROFLLLLLLLLLL see?!?!?!? LOL

😂😂😂 That's hilarious!!! What a dude!!! You're gonna have to give him some wit when you meet again one day 🙏

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That drabble article is incredibly difficult. Can't you make a easy world-building contest requiring +4000 words or something similar? Hope you're doing well. Have a great weekend.

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I just busted up laughing 🤣🤣🤣

I need to catch up on your blog !LOLZ... I see you posting prolifically and I can't keep up with everyone... and if every post is 4k words... FELIX!!! 😂 But I shall come and find out what I have missed these past few weeks... I had my own little break from Hive, so I'm playing catch-up all around.

So, are we gonna see an entry from you this week? hehe... I mean c'mon... it's only 100 words... a walk in the park for you... ROFLLLLL

But yep those drabbles are not easy!

Now... world building... seems like a cool idea for a WOTW theme 😉

I am doing well now thanks!! And the sun is shining - I think summer has arrived on my side of the pond. Happy weekend to you too, my friend !LUV !ALIVE !PIMP

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I am oddly posting a lot compared to my past progress.

Everything changed after spine surgery. I didn't want to start drinking again when I woke up. I see the liquor bottles at the supermarket and am not even tempted to pick one up.

It's concerning in a way because now the images don't stop. I have to write, or they build up. The writing since I've recovered has been almost therapeutic.

After the surgery, I lost almost 30 pounds and kept it off. My wife says I'm a changed man. A marriage teetering on collapse is now...loving? Hard to believe. Women...sheesh. The way she looks at me now, as opposed to before, is like night and day.

I see my neurologist in a couple of weeks to validate that spinal fusion has occurred. Once he clears me, I'll be able to build my body back up again.

AND STILL...seems like an easier task than writing some drabble...

I hope you had a great weekend!

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This makes me want to cry. I'm so happy, Felix🤗I pray that the op was a complete success 🙏💗 and that you and your wife enjoy having that loving feeling back so much that neither of you ever goes back to what it was... This is just wonderful!

You know... physical pain can be so debilitating. When my hubby was struggling a lot with his back pain (before he started yoga) I could always tell when it was bad. He would get snippy and short with me... for no apparent reason... and I would discover a short while after each time that he was struggling with his back... At one point he was drinking whisky every day and the odd beer too and was fairly overweight... but when he started yoga and a cycle of improved flexibility, it led to him being able to walk more, which led to jogging and improved fitness which led to running and now cycling and a loss of 30 kgs... his back pain became something he could manage and no longer has him collapsed on the floor unable to move. Now he hardly ever drinks. We've both changed things about our responses to each other and our marriage is so much more peaceful, mutually supportive, and collaborative for having done so.

And of course... the writing... the passion... when you have no pain you are so much more free to focus on what brings you joy. Your energy can be directed into that instead of pain management. Honestly, sometimes He does so much more than we asked for or could have expected. Be blessed.

And you don't have to write a drabble hehe... I just like to tease. But if you fancy giving it a shot... you know we'd love to see something from you.

Much love 💗!LUV !ALIVE !PIMP

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Dreem Steem doesn't seem like a difficult name to pronounce at all. He shouldn't have had any trouble with it. I'm sorry for his passing too. His influence was apparently magnificent. You don't meet people like that every day.

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