Act Your Age.
The Death of Socrates (1787) by Jacques-Louis David
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The most vivid and most powerful dream your mind ever concocted to exist for you is the one your living in right now.
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I never get a break from he|a|ring this all too com|mon phrase. Most of time I just ig|nore it because I know what it means. I think that some of those that say that to me know right away I don't ap|prove it as I start to ig|nore their exist|ence com|plete|ly. I just don't toll|a|rate much of the toxi|city any|more.
I don't con|front them about it.
I don't usu|ally quest|ion them to break their illusion of it. I'm not always in the moo|d to talk any|ways. Especially not to some|one who wants to be|little me.
Let's stick to the present the best we can here.
What does "Act your own age" even mean anyways?
Have you actually ever thought to consider that every moment that is passing continually now is a new age? At this very moment, our age is a new age that we are experiencing right now. Every now is then in the next now. That is yo say, the moment of now will be past the next moment. Every moment passing is old. And the new age is now. And now. And now. A new age every single present moment.
I don't ever remember acting this age before. Have you?
How could you anyways?
What decides behavior goes with what moment?
Who decides the behavior for each age?
Is age a number or a behavior?
Or is it more likely, that the person who is saying to others to "act their age" is actually projecting their own insecurities? Are we not fitting inside your expectations? Inside your cage of norms, where your in control? Are you disturbed by the behaviour that you can't control?
Well sooorry, for not falling within your social norms, within your limitations of what someone my PRESENT age should be. ACTUALLY, I'm not sorry. Not one bit. I don't give fuck what you think I should behave as. There is no wisdom found in the phrase "act your own age". It is fear, control and conformity under the guise of maturity, responsibility and/or even social correctness.
When you say "act your own age" what your actually doing is down playing the other person's unique frame of being. What you are actually telling them, is to be less like themselves and to be more like you. Who the fuck wants to be you anyways? Not me. I want to be me. Not you. Got it?
What is this unspoken rule anyways that each age comes with specific expectations on how to behave?
Why are these norms rarely questioned?
These norms that are often rooted in conformity and cultural programming, limiting who we are to meant to be in reality(for each to discover for themselves).
"Act your age" is social pressure. Pressure that holds down an individual from being themselves.
Like I get it though too. Behavior that doesn't fit inside what you think is appropriate, you want to correct someone's behavior so you tell them to act their own age but what you are actually doing is not correcting behavior. Your shaming someone. You're belittling them. Your punishing them. Has it actually worked? Did they change with you doing that? If so, I feel sorry for them.
They only changed out of fear of ridicules, and social rejection. Not because they understand what they do. Not because they may understand the toxic manipulation behind such phrases. But because they don't want to be criticized out of fear of not belonging. Even though not belonging might better be a blessing in disguise. Not everyone belong in our lives. But your toxic phrase projection disguised as wisdom is actually just to control others to your own expectations. There is nothing uplifting about "act your own age". It puts people down. And that is pathetic.
More often than not, I find this phrase being used when people are being playful, energetic emotional and creative. Yet you, out of some jealousy maybe, you spit out your venom from your snake mouth without thinking rationally and with some cognitive filters, "act your own age". Go fuck yourself, seriously.
"Act your age" is never about the person it is directed to. It's about the insecurities, and the control freak nature and beliefs of the projector who is saying it.
If ever you catch someone saying this to you, don't hide your emotions, don't conform to their demands, don't stop being playful. Just fucking ignore those losers and keep being you. It's your life, not theirs to control.
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