Navigating A Path Forward When Love Fades

So tell me, imagine you just got married and it is almost a year to your marriage anniversary and when the day finally comes, instead of you to be happy and filled with joy, your hearts finally becomes heavy.

You find out that you have already fallen out in love with your spouse and this might really hurt. And if you're in this situation and you're feeling something similar, then know that you might not be alone.

So let's talk about how and what to do when we are faced in this kind of situation. And how to find a way to move forward with courage. First, you have to let yourself feel it. That guilt, that confusion, that sadness,
it will be all real. And trying to pretend will not help you at all.

You might just spend a week wondering how did you get here. All the arguments,
the person stopped talking to you. Or maybe your love for the person just changed at certain point in time and you no longer feel anything for the person anymore.

You have to learn that it is okay to feel sad or grieve when the love is no more. You can still acknowledge the pain and that is the first step of understanding why it hurts. That is because you have to move on and overcome the pain more.

The next step is that you choose honesty. Not just with yourself. But with yourself and your spouse. Sometimes, you might be forced to bury those feelings because you don't know what might happen next or what might become of the next person. And you just fake a smile and hope things will get better.

When the situation is a bit messy what do I plan of doing? You have to sit down with your spouse, you are not sitting down to point hands but to share your heart with them. And if you have to feel something sometimes. Say to the person "I feel like we've lost something and we have to figure out what we lost.

Don't expect things to go perfect. Sometimes it's scary, but I think it's also a chance to rebuild or at least part with the respect. It can also be a time that you also reflect on what love means to you.

Marriage is not a smooth journey. It's like living and breathing. You are staying with someone for the rest of your life and the person you're seeing needs to be very close and you need to feel that person in order to live a good life or else it might not be happening in your life.

Maybe the goals you guys set for yourself, the plans you stop nurturing it or maybe you just rush into the marriage because there was a peer pressure without knowing each other. Either way, ask yourself what do you want from that love or do I need to feel loved. You have to write those things down and see where the problem is coming from.

And finally you have to seek support, maybe from friends or family or a therapist or even just a quiet walk one evening. You don't have to rush to fix things or make that big decision like filing for a divorce right away. Give yourself time and permission to explore maybe with time you will discover each other.

With the right counseling or with patients or maybe you just find a reason to just let go for once that might be the best choice. But if you're in this situation just take a deep breath, you are not falling apart, you are still
human, you feel something, you feel pain, you feel love, you have feelings.

Love can change at any time and the next is to face it with honesty and hope that's trusting yourself and trusting what comes next.

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