The Weight of Unspoken Emotions

#emotionsandfeelings

In my experience, bottling up emotions is not the responsible thing to do. Yeah, I said it. Keeping them in will only make your heart heavy, and sometimes, that’s far worse than a fracture. It's not something you can just put a bandage on.
The world often makes us feel we should not express how we feel, especially if it’s complicated. They say, “Suck it up, and it will go away soon,” but it doesn’t. If this ever works for you, you're only distracted — and when you’re not distracted, it comes back way worse than before.

I am one of those people who would get sad or hurt or just uncomfortable because of something a person did or said. But what did I do? I kept it in. Want to know my reason? I didn’t want things to get awkward. But not expressing myself only made it more awkward. I’d feel my heart racing whenever I was around the person — and trust me, it wasn’t the good kind of racing.

Not expressing yourself always leads to one thing: both you and the person involved getting hurt. Whether you admit it or not, it's there. Most of the time, you start getting angry over the smallest things they do, not because of what they did, but because of the anger or sadness you’re still holding inside. So, being around them starts to give you the “ick.”

In my case, I never spoke up because I worried about how people would take it, or maybe I’d be sharing too much and becoming vulnerable, or maybe I was doing too much. There are lots of reasons we hold back, but the bottom line is this: It’s okay to feel a certain way. What’s important is finding the best way to express yourself — no matter who’s involved.

In many cases, talking directly to the person doesn’t quite do it. For some people, journaling, therapy, talking to a trusted friend, or simply sitting with their feelings for a moment helps reduce the burden a whole lot. It’s okay to not always have the perfect words, but it’s still important to express your feelings in whatever way you can.

Unspoken emotions don’t disappear into thin air — they need to be felt and released. Talk about it. It always helps.

Ps: these pictures were taken by me with my mobile device.