The Wear of Gossip.

I was relating with a brother the other day. He and I were elevated in the Leadership of the Church and we were just talking. He began to open up about many things and one of them was how much of his name has been ruined by people he was set over. He complained bitterly and then he said something that completely pierced my heart,

“Dee. I’m exhausted. I’m just tired.”

I think I didn’t understand the mental toll gossip can take over the victim until that night. That was when I fully understood why David (in the Bible) cried out to God to deliver him. It’s way more than I thought it’ll be.

See, people will always be people. Their hearts fickle and easily swayed by the wind. They won’t step up and do what they need to and when they see someone who is doing it right, they complain and grumble. They call them boastful, bossy or proud. I know because I have collected my fair share of gossip. These humans are like crabs. They never want you to leave the basket. Lowly creatures who compete even against themselves.

There’s a reason people stop helping and showing up like they used to. Unfortunately, not everyone has enough sense to reason and recall their actions. They look past their mistakes and expect that every other person just do what they want. They smear the names of those who work tirelessly on the field because they themselves can’t do the work. They complain bitterly against those who show up and try to discourage them.

When they succeed, they still turn around and sow discord about them, pointing fingers because that’s all they know how to do. They have no life and so they settle for talking about others. They are clad in misery and the only excitement they experience is when your name is tainted with the jargons that leave their mouths. It’s sad really, how they band together to talk about one person and still struggle where they are. They have time to go up and down talking about someone who just keeps going up.

I am angry to be honest. This brings to mind most of the things I hear today (Hive is always a part of it unfortunately and why I have distanced myself). There is always something to say about a person even when it’s not true. Like sheep led to the slaughter, these little minds believe the lies and do not seek the truth. They join the bandwagon, letting their lips propagate falsehood and they wonder why a lot of things go wrong in their lives.

I look at my country and it’s the same. Why do the poor remain poor? Of course the first thing that comes to mind is how our leaders are to blame but now, I call bullshit! The poor remain poor because they despise the very things that hold their wealth. They talk down on prosperity, calling it fraud or corruption. How will you ever be or get the same thing you speak against?

My fiancé said something to me like this, “one mistake I will never make is do business with a poor man. His purse shows the reality of his mind.”

This is true. Listening to my friend just reminded me of that vow I made as well. Not to associate with people of poor mentality. They are so poor in character and attitude that it shows around them. I’m what you call friendly and to others I’m not. One thing that would never change is this; Energy. This can never be faked.

When you sit to talk about people, when you band together to spread lies, bear it in mind that you can never be what you despise. You can’t ever have what you hate. What goes around will surely come around. Nothing destroys like gossip. Nothing kills like it. Full grown men and women sitting together to spread malicious rumors and then wonder why the same people they talked about changed. That’s really laughable.

Well, I just hope for rest on the part of my friend and I also pray I don’t ever join the way of the tumors. Because I have seen and experienced what gossip can do. It is a destructive agent. I’d rather tell you to your face and seal it up right then or I ignore you altogether. Never in-between.

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