EVERYBODY's Been Traumatized!

These days, it seems like you can hardly turn the corner or have a conversation with somebody without the topic of trauma coming up.

Whether people are talking about processing their trauma, or healing from their trauma, or the way their trauma seems to be determining the outcome of their life there is no doubt that trauma is front and center much of the time.

Of course I may hear more about this than most people simply because of the fact that Mrs. Denmarkguy is a minister and therapist, and she happens to be a "trauma recovery specialist" was a whole bunch of educational letters after her name.

The thing is that with trauma of being such a buzzword these days. pretty much everybody becomes an armchair psychologist and a "Google expert" on trauma and how to deal with it.

Well, not really!

Anytime any kind of psychological concept becomes "pop culture popular," one of the side effects seems to be that people feel far more inclined to take on some kind of victim role in the situation. Trauma ceases to be something that you're trying to get over and instead becomes something you "can't help" and point the finger at, whenever something unpleasant happens... and even when you're just being an outright asshole.

If you think about it, pretty much all of us have been traumatized in one way or another.

Maybe you were relentlessly bullied at school and never really got over it. That's the kind of trauma. Maybe you've been in an abusive relationship, or maybe your parents were abusive. Sometimes traumas are superficially insignificant to the point that most people don't even think of them as traumatic experiences. And yet? They end up informing a person's decisions and choices in often unfortunate ways.

I'm definitely not here to belittle anybody's traumatic experiences, just like I wouldn't want anyone to belittle mine — regardless of whether you think I actually experienced something truly traumatic... or not!

The main question I'd ask is: are you aware that your trauma has a great influence over your life? And furthermore, are you doing anything to get over it and move on, rather than leaning on it as a sort of "crutch" that gives you a hall pass to not live your life to the fullest?

I've been down that particular road myself, and it's definitely no way to live!

Earlier today I spent a little time diving down one of those many rabbit holes we can find online, in this case having to do with articles and videos on trauma recovery.

There is just so much information out there, and so many people declaring themselves "experts" on the matter!

But perhaps what bothers me most about it all was this subtle subtext that there is also a whole bunch of people who are engaging in a sort of "copycat behavior," in which they are assuming trauma as their own, perhaps as a means to trying to fit in and belong to some kind of group or demographic.

This stuff is not a joke folks and it's not something you want to pretend is your own just because you need a hobby! Seriously? Take up darts or knitting, instead!

Of course this could also be a sign that I'm just getting old and belong to an age where we didn't really talk much about stuff... unless we were actually lying in the gutter bleeding out! OK... so that's obviously an exaggeration but I think you get my drift.

A lot of these things do seem to go through phases, just like a few years ago pretty much everybody was ”a narcissist” if they showed even the slightest inclination towards selfishness.

It's a little more complicated than that!

Without a doubt, life is often very difficult, and we end up feeling like we're at the end of our rope... but let's not take on problems we don't evenm have, just to make a few friends!

Thanks for stopping by, and have a great Friday!

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