Why do people take kindness for weakness
Hello everyone I trust you guys haven't a wonderful day.so today I'm writing on a little drama that happened between me and my friend.
A few months back a friend of mine came to me and was desperately asking me for money. I told him I don't have it because most of the money I have I save it and am not ready to break my save. He pleaded and pleaded that he was going to give me back once he received his salary at the end of month. I said ok no problem I will give because he said it was very urgent and important and I didn't want to look like a bad person who doesn't help his friends in time of need. Giving him the money I pleaded with please I don't want to hear complaints when it's time to pay me because I had no intention of breaking my save but he made me do it.
Some days passed, and it was already month end. I was expecting him to pay me since we made an agreement that he was going to pay me, but to my greatest surprise he pretended as if he didn't collect any money from me forgetting our agreement. So I decided to go meet him and ask if he forgot about our agreement in seeing me. He remembered we made an agreement and was sorry. He started pleading and saying sorry that he had another problem, it wasn't as if he forgot about our agreement of bring me back my money but that he didn't want to come meet me empty handed with the money that why he didn't reach out to me he is sorry and pleaded for more time promises he was going to pay me with a promise, I had no choice than to agree with him.
Time passed and passed again but I keep on hearing complaints, one faithful day I had from one of our friends that he got a new phone. I was surprised that he had the money to get a new phone but he didn't have to pay. The next day I went to his house, unfortunately he was not at home so I had to go back. I tried calling him but he didn't answer. Later in the day he called me and was begging that he was in the hospital he couldn't answer my call his sorry. he pleaded again if I could still borrow him some money again, when he lives the hospital he will pay me back all the money it was a matter of life and death I had no choice again that to be of help.
The next day I called to check up on him and if he was fine and good he said yes he got back from the hospital this morning and pleaded that he was so sorry for calling me that urgently I said it was fine what type of a person I would be if I didn't help my friend. Some days later he called me and said I should send my account details. I thought he was going to send the complete money but he only sent half of the money.
In summary, Time passed and he wasn't able to pay me back till date and just a few days back, he came asking me for money again. I was confused about what to do. This is my friend. I don't want him to feel like I don't want to help him at the same time. I fear giving him the money because I know he won't pay me back.