Letting go to prioritize my sanity

They says everything that has a beginning also has an end; for a relationship or friendship, that end is determined by the individuals, and how long the relationship lasts is also determined by the individuals. We might have our differences, but our ability to tolerate now determines how long a relationship will last.

It is also important to note that sometimes people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or just for life. Being able to know this helps us as individuals also.

As an event decorator, I met this guy who was a boss in the business, and as a result of working with him, I met a girl who, at the time, he was dating. I became friends with her, knowing that we were of the same ethnicity.

One thing led to another, and the relationship between her and that boss just went down the drain because he is someone that talks a lot, and he also created a toxic work environment for his workers with comments like "None of my workers can satisfy."

We got really close, and I actually got to like her. This was before I got admission into school.

After I got admission, I tried to keep the communication, but she just wasn't giving the same energy with the excuse that I just left her.

After a while I got really carried away with schoolwork, and so I couldn't reach out to her for a while about a whole section during which she also didn't reach out, and after a while I reached out to her again.

And the first thing she was going to say was, "You just abandoned me," and I'm like, "I know I didn't reach out to you, but you didn't reach out either," and she got angry.

I had to apologize, and after the apology, we will be back to normal talking, but one thing that was different was the fact that every time I talked to her, she was always requesting money.

And I say to students, I was trying to be moderate with my spending in school. I couldn't afford at that time to be sending someone who was at home money while I was working so hard in school trying to make a life and go to school at the same time.

The response I caught was, "You are a very stingy person," and the last time we talked, she rained curses on me, telling me how I was a very broke guy who couldn't afford to give her money.

Now this was someone I already had some feelings for, and I had plans for in terms of marriage, but I saw that if she couldn't insult me when we were not even dating yet and we just knew that we liked each other, then she will do more in marriage.

This was how I cut communication with her for my sanity's sake because she was always playing the victim, and at the slightest opportunity she would use abusive words, and this made me feel very uncomfortable, but after cutting off from her, I felt better because I have friends that value me and make me feel important and wanted.

This is my response to the weekend writing engagement with the topic.

"Have you ever had to cut a friend loose? If so, explain why, how it felt, and how it's impacted you since.

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