Parenting; No special Manuel

Parenting: The delicate dance of guiding, nurturing, and loving your child, while also letting go, trusting, and empowering them to become the best version of themselves.

From my definition, you can see that in parenting, you don't have to be overprotective or intrusive. Parenting is not an easy job, and I can tell you for free that some parents try their best to bring out the best in their children, but they just allow village people to follow them up and down.

I don't have a child yet, but I am going to use myself as an example. While growing up, you can't invite a male visitor into my house as a female; likewise, as a male, female visitors can't be invited. My mother's rule

My mother will always want to force you to do everything her way, except you stubbornly refused, which she must have reported to our pastor then. My mother was overprotective and had something to say about anybody she saw close to me; my mother has been a core Christian Pentecostal mission member; everybody knows what it is like already.

You are not allowed to make mistakes at all; you are to be a good example always, but my father was different, and that's why he was our friend. My father will always want to know our friends, and he will always let us do whatever we want, but on his watch, he will always guide us on things to do and not to do.

He taught us sex education, which my mother was shying away from. I was comfortable talking to my dad about any guy who asked me out; he would indirectly investigate the guy and ask me to leave him. Although my father was our friend, he set some boundaries and made us understand the consequences of going against them while setting such rules.

He is always available to listen to all our complaints and rants about friends' school; whenever we are done talking, he gives the best advice with our judging or uses what we told him against us.

My father will always let you do your trial and error, and then he will properly direct you on how to go about it in case next time. Sometimes time, my mother will not agree with our decision, but my father will agree even if he's not comfortable with it but still watches our back.

Whenever any of us achieve anything, no matter how small, he has the best praises, if he notices that any of us is down because one of us did better, he will immediately shower the praises on all of us; he has a way of doing it ath none will feel like a failure.

I remember failing in a beauty contest, I was sucking all day, but my daddy said why are you here sucking instead of reflecting on your mistakes and making adjustments next time.

There is no special Manuel for training a child, just be your child's first friend before outsiders, pay attention to all their speech about school to how you will know when they are about to stray, help your kids to be resilient and perseverance, allow your kids to explore, experiment but guide them.

Don't always remind them of their failures, but encourage them to do better and show your children how to develop a healthy relationship. Engage your children in activities that they like. Try to recognize your limitations and prioritize self-care. Maintain a healthy work and life balance, so your children can be able to reach you at all times

By implementing these strategies, you can find a balance between protecting your child and giving them the autonomy they need to grow and thrive.

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