ON MY TYPE OF MARRIAGE
I haven't really thought of this. I mean, the whole wedding and marriage thing. I don't know why, but it just doesn't come to mind as often as people may assume it should. You know they say that from a very young age, even just as a teenager, girls start to fantasize about marriage and their dream weddings and all of that. Not me. I don't know if it's something to be proud about though, but so far, it hasn't been a case for me. Phew!
But I have to now. I'd be sincere and say that I didn't want to think much of what I prefer and what to write. I'll spill how it comes. So there's just three popular ways of getting married around here. The traditional, church(based on religion) and court marriages.
As much as I have some qualms with some cultural and traditional ways, I think that, first, I prefer the traditional way of marriage. I can't describe but there's just this filling, embracing, proud feeling that goes with this way. There's the dressing up in local outfits, there's having my kinsmen and kinswomen sit and deliberate(however they do it) with so much pride and joy. Ah! There's the music. The local music and bands. There are the rites too. And most importantly, the blessing from my parents(family). Surely, they can give their blessings during the religious or civil wedding, I guess. But you see that kneeling before them and having them speak those words while we gaze affectionately at one another...priceless!
Traditional marriage sort of makes me feel closer home. Feels like I'm in a gathering of my own people and I'm having fun with them. As an only daughter, I would be the only one who would get to bring the party home. For my siblings(brothers), we'd have to take the party to the bride's home. I can't describe this further but you get it, yeah?
Religious marriage is good too. I like it very well. The outfits, the dress, the ambience of the occassion, the blessings, the afterparty, the chilling yet exciting walk down the aisle that brings about more realization of the decision about to be made and the journey ahead. Not to forget the sweet marriage vows. It's beautiful!
I fancy court marriages too but I haven't gotten my head around what they truly stand for since, mostly, I read that people go for it inorder that what is their partner's is theirs. But I ask, shouldn't that be the normal? Besides, who goes into mattiage with separation in mind?
I do have some findings to do concerning it cause this cannot be all it entails. This cake be all the signifocance. I'm just not informed, I believe. I'll do my studies but if you know better, please school me. I'd appreciate it.
Now, to whether it's a guarantee for anything stable and healthy? It isn't. The parties are events. But, it takes the two individuals who have chosen to be one to make what they have work. That's the most I can share now.
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For a fact, traditional wedding brings people together. In my place, it is compulsory. You can not proceed with any other kind of marriage without going through the traditional.
Court weddings are cool too, and I don't think there is anything like sharing properties equally in the case of divorce, I think the only condition that warrants for that is when the property was acquired by the both of you. I stand to be corrected on this.
Thanks for sharing