RE: The First-Born Phenomenon
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Hm, interesting!! I am the eldest of two girls and my sister and I are less than two years apart. I remember my mom saying I was a bit jealous the first few months but we mostly got along as kids. I think it helped that I was a total tomboy and she very much a girl-y girl. The turmoil began when we were both teenagers. I was very, very moody and got annoyed at her constantly waking me up or borrowing my clothes or having to pick up after her. I still feel bad about it to this day but .... surprisingly, she does not see it that way at all. Now we are both in our 30's and she says I was a very nice older sister and she felt included in my life. Now we are very close and I feel so lucky to have her as a lifelong friend I can trust with my secrets. So, this is all to say that I believe all siblings have some phase of not getting along but eventually things work out.
Yes, that could definitely play a role as well. Our oldest daughter is very girly, sensitive, and dramatic -- in short, more of a girl. Our youngest is more chill, but if they were both very girly, maybe things could be MUCH different 😬
Thank you for sharing, and I'm glad that you and your sister have had a better outcome 🙏 it's an important, special relationship
Maybe it is good that they aren't both so girly, that way your oldest receives the attention she craves for her more girly attributes and your youngest can fill other roles in life. That seemed to have worked well for us, though I think maybe it is my younger sister who was the dramatic one, and still is. Love her though!
Best of luck to you and your family!!