"Japa Syndrome" The Hustle Is Real #261

1️⃣ You were offered a job by an overseas firm in a country you've always wanted to visit. However, you cannot take your immediate family (spouse and kids) with you until two years later. Would you grab the opportunity? Share your thoughts, please.

Hello #ladiesofhive. I trust you are having the best of times. Among the three prompts published in the community, I would like to discuss one of them. Welcome to my blog.

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This question is a real-life scenario, especially from my country of origin, where the issue of “Japa syndrome” has been a long-standing issue, coupled with the economic challenges.

So if I cannot take my immediate family with me until two years later to Canada, which is a country I’ve always wanted to visit. I will feel bad about it, and to be candid, I will not take the offer. The reason is that I already have a close family member over there in Calgary, and we have been dreaming of joining them. However, the issue of leaving my family behind and travelling first has been the bone of contention.

One of the striking statements that comes up is that out of sight is out of mind. People believe that when you leave your partner for such a long time, the close neighbour who has been eyeing him will creep in when you are not around for such a long time.
Worst still, some extended family would even advise him to start playing away matches because the body no be firewood.

Secondly, I don't feel comfortable staying away from my family. I love my family and as a result, I often find it difficult travelling for a long time. I love companionship and togetherness. I might be tempted to give in to unfaithful living. Just like the saying that when the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable. Therefore, I wouldn’t like to explore such an option

Thirdly, there are days one gets bored, overburdened, and wants to lean on someone for comfort. Some may deceive themselves that they can do it and, at the end of the day, break the promise. I do hear how a lot of these challenges have led to broken homes. And honestly, that is the least I am expecting from my marital life.

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On the other hand, there is great potential for those who are willing and able to take such risks, maybe at the expense of their family. Some who do not care about the damning consequences may decide to take it up. After all, many have done it, but the truth is that while a good number of them regret the move, some are still nursing their wounds.

A few that excelled told their stories, and most times, one may be discouraged from trying. However, the world is also meant for risk takers. I wish those of us who can go on such an adventure good luck.

In conclusion, for the sake of bonding, partnership, and decency in my marital life, I would not accept such an offer. It amounts to a serious risk and double standard living.

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