Lies: What Could Happen?

What can we classify as a lie? Is it okay to tell them if they are seen as “good”? I do not know for many others but I feel that it is better not to say anything at all. Lies are lies and nothing like a good lie. It will hurt someone in the end, so better not to say anything.

Why Lie?

I feel like I have covered this before, however, there is somewhere I am going with this, and it has to do with relationships – work, romance and family. I remember saying that staying truthful is the best way to keep a clear head and maintain an aura of mental stability. Lies do nothing but alter reality, and as you do that continuously, you find yourself being caught in a web of lies. You may not even be able to distinguish the truth for yourself anymore, and that would be nothing but a disaster most especially for you.

I find that people lie and say as a cover up, “it had to be done”. Those are excuses. Lies are nothing but lies, it is much better to speak the truth. I may not be making sense, but it is the truth. Someone says, “If you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all”.

What Lie Does

Lies not only warp your sense of reality but it creates a film that clouds your mind. A lot of bullshit becomes acceptable to you and eventually, you are joining the ‘woke’ gang. You may not notice it but lies just tear you apart and it does the same for everything you are involved with. It comes so naturally to make excuses and justifications. You see what you want to see and not what you need to see.

There is an unpopular opinion that women cannot deal with the truth. Especially when it is coming from a man. It is unpopular but it is true. To break something to a woman, say your spouse, you have to be gentle, let her down slowly. It is not the same for us men because no one gives a shit how you are feeling and they will you like it is. This is why it is so easy for women to be lied to. They are emotional creatures and are moved by words. Men are different and most turn out brutally honest for their own good.

I am not saying women are not or cannot be honest, no. What I am trying to do is let you understand where I am coming from with what a lie and a truth is. There is a reason why a woman can put up with bullshit way longer than a man. They are led by what they ‘want’ to believe.

On so many occasions, I have come across a woman who fakes liking what one man likes just so she can win him over. It works half the time, until the lie can no longer be sustained, and that is where it begins to fall apart.

Anything like a white lie?

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I do not believe so but I will ask. What do you believe is a harmless lie? I have witnessed harmless lie spiral and turn into an avalanche of uncontrollable consequences. I get there are times when you just don’t want to hurt them but trust me, you can let a person know the truth and if they are willing, they’ll be hurt but there will be improvement.

A perfect example is a woman who has issues with the sex life between her and her partner. She is in no way stimulated by sex but he craves it and she lets him have it even if it does nothing for her in anyway. I mentioned in passing that she should talk with him and let him know how she truly feels because sex is meant to be enjoyed by both parties. They could both seek help, go for counseling or something, but she was scared he would leave her or that it would change how they felt about each other. So, she fakes it. My question remains, for how long?

Everyone deals with this sort of thing differently. I can bet you that should that man come to the realisation on his own; it will do more harm than good. However, I do not know the whole dynamic to their relationship so I can only give advice from my point of view.

Conclusion

In essence, I do not believe in white lies. Lies are lies and one way or the other it will slowly but surely break down whatever it is you have built. It may not be directly but it will mess with your mind and the way you perceive things. You become toxic without even knowing it or you become prey and vulnerable to vicious people. Which is a disaster. I say be truthful always. To yourself and others. It is one great medicine for your mental health.

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